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Feel like vomiting... just trying to get through the day (prostitution)
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 454563" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry Bean. You so do not deserve to go through all of the pain that she is dragging you through. I think that the suggestion to tell her that you simply cannot have her in your life right now, and not until she is clean, sober and living a much different life, is an excellent idea. Most of what she says to you is nothing but manipulation, designed to make you do what she wants an to get you to support the unhealthy lifestyle that she has chosen.</p><p></p><p>I know that this will be hard to hear, but chances are VERY high that even when your mom was paying her rent and she had a place to live and a job for those months, she was still trading sex for money/drugs. Chances are it has been going on fairly constantly since you pulled her out of that other city where she was so sick and had a pimp and was so messed up. It would be pretty rare for her to have stopped it completely with-o a heck of a lot of therapy and help. She is also probably addicted to substances that you and I wouldn't even know where to go to get, and that she has been much of this time. </p><p></p><p>You have some choices. You can continue to take her calls, listen to her abuse, beg her to get help, rescue her when she gets really really bad off the way she was in the other city, and stay on this conflama and pain merry go round. You can tell her that you have had enough and when she is clean and sober and working as a contributing member of society then you will consider having a relationship with her, but until then she is not to call or contact you for anything. Or you can try to find a way to only know a "little' about her life and still be in contact - in which case she will still continue to berate you and manipulate you and get you to give her money and things and she will still expect you to rescue her when she is so terribly sick because of her lifestyle choices.</p><p></p><p>I know it is hard. I am the LAST one to tell you that you must do one thing or the other. I am just trying to show you the choices. Heck, I am still wanting a relationship with my parents even after all the pain and conflama we have had with them. It hurts. Someday it won't hurt so bad, but it will likely not be a day that is very soon. </p><p></p><p>I do think you need to take a long hard look at how this is affecting your other kids and what messages it is sending to them. Whatever you decide, I hope and pray that your pain lessens and that you have support from a therapist and from alanon and/or narcanon. I am sure that somewhere there is a group to support parents of young people who have chosen prostitution, and maybe looking for that would also help. </p><p></p><p>Please try to find at least a few minutes each day to enjoy something. We all need that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 454563, member: 1233"] I am so sorry Bean. You so do not deserve to go through all of the pain that she is dragging you through. I think that the suggestion to tell her that you simply cannot have her in your life right now, and not until she is clean, sober and living a much different life, is an excellent idea. Most of what she says to you is nothing but manipulation, designed to make you do what she wants an to get you to support the unhealthy lifestyle that she has chosen. I know that this will be hard to hear, but chances are VERY high that even when your mom was paying her rent and she had a place to live and a job for those months, she was still trading sex for money/drugs. Chances are it has been going on fairly constantly since you pulled her out of that other city where she was so sick and had a pimp and was so messed up. It would be pretty rare for her to have stopped it completely with-o a heck of a lot of therapy and help. She is also probably addicted to substances that you and I wouldn't even know where to go to get, and that she has been much of this time. You have some choices. You can continue to take her calls, listen to her abuse, beg her to get help, rescue her when she gets really really bad off the way she was in the other city, and stay on this conflama and pain merry go round. You can tell her that you have had enough and when she is clean and sober and working as a contributing member of society then you will consider having a relationship with her, but until then she is not to call or contact you for anything. Or you can try to find a way to only know a "little' about her life and still be in contact - in which case she will still continue to berate you and manipulate you and get you to give her money and things and she will still expect you to rescue her when she is so terribly sick because of her lifestyle choices. I know it is hard. I am the LAST one to tell you that you must do one thing or the other. I am just trying to show you the choices. Heck, I am still wanting a relationship with my parents even after all the pain and conflama we have had with them. It hurts. Someday it won't hurt so bad, but it will likely not be a day that is very soon. I do think you need to take a long hard look at how this is affecting your other kids and what messages it is sending to them. Whatever you decide, I hope and pray that your pain lessens and that you have support from a therapist and from alanon and/or narcanon. I am sure that somewhere there is a group to support parents of young people who have chosen prostitution, and maybe looking for that would also help. Please try to find at least a few minutes each day to enjoy something. We all need that. [/QUOTE]
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