it was very liberating to answer my son honestly. Some of you may remember wm's last visit to my home....he brought weapons & the situation quickly went ugly (i.e. dangerous). I've spoken with wm many times since however my mind isn't totally on his antics or his demands. I've responded very vaguely when asked when I would be over to visit with him....take him out for lunch or what not. Yesterday wm said "Mom, I get the impression you think I'm dangerous". I was gobsmacked. wm generally isn't this introspective or aware of our conversations. I blurted out very honestly that I think he is dangerous & his anger makes me not want to visit him. There was a moment of silence then he hung up. I chose not to call him back. I did call foster mum & told her what I said...her reply was "it's about time wm hears that his anger & choices are scary & dangerous". Good, bad or indifferent my son knows that I'm not comfortable in his presence alone. I will not visit him with-o an adult male in the room. He's not liking this ~ it bites to be wm right now. What more can be said?