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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 344966" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I know I would feel sad in the same situation. I don't blame you at all. I'm sorry for everyone's loss in this. It's a definite passage and a passing.</p><p></p><p>On more practical lines, I would like to share my experiences with men who didn't want any or more children. When I was 18 I was dating a much older man. (GAWD what was I thinking?) He told me he just never wanted any children. Because of my clotting issues birth control was always an issue for me. I told him if he didn't want kids he should be proactive about it. He got a vasectomy. It was relatively inexpensive at the local teaching hospital, and he was happy that he would never have to worry about it again. </p><p></p><p>Later in life, after several miscarriages and life threatening blood loss due to the clotting, husband and I decided that 2 was enough and it would be easier for him to have the vasectomy than me to get my tubes tied. Insurance covered it, I think it was a $15 co-pay. He did it on a Friday and was back to work on Monday. There was an icepack, and a days worth of vicodin. </p><p></p><p>M told us many times as a younger man that he never wanted kids. I think that people that don't want children shouldn't have them. I hope that if that is so for him - and I tend to believe him - that he will do something to keep himself from having unwanted children.</p><p></p><p>Tubal ligation is invasive, and there are very real dangers that come with it and the anesthesia. A vasectomy is uncomfortable and done with a local anesthetic. Is there any reason for your difficult child to not get a vasectomy? It might be good for him to follow through with the action that comes from the decision.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 344966, member: 99"] I know I would feel sad in the same situation. I don't blame you at all. I'm sorry for everyone's loss in this. It's a definite passage and a passing. On more practical lines, I would like to share my experiences with men who didn't want any or more children. When I was 18 I was dating a much older man. (GAWD what was I thinking?) He told me he just never wanted any children. Because of my clotting issues birth control was always an issue for me. I told him if he didn't want kids he should be proactive about it. He got a vasectomy. It was relatively inexpensive at the local teaching hospital, and he was happy that he would never have to worry about it again. Later in life, after several miscarriages and life threatening blood loss due to the clotting, husband and I decided that 2 was enough and it would be easier for him to have the vasectomy than me to get my tubes tied. Insurance covered it, I think it was a $15 co-pay. He did it on a Friday and was back to work on Monday. There was an icepack, and a days worth of vicodin. M told us many times as a younger man that he never wanted kids. I think that people that don't want children shouldn't have them. I hope that if that is so for him - and I tend to believe him - that he will do something to keep himself from having unwanted children. Tubal ligation is invasive, and there are very real dangers that come with it and the anesthesia. A vasectomy is uncomfortable and done with a local anesthetic. Is there any reason for your difficult child to not get a vasectomy? It might be good for him to follow through with the action that comes from the decision. [/QUOTE]
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