Hi again: It is so confusing with difficult child 28. I posted on other threads about his history: ODD NLD executive functioning problems had IEP but did not do well after grade 6, got GED, substance abuse: many substances marijuana meth alcohol benzos and major heroin addiction. He has not used heroin in 5 years. Some problems with alcohol but has decreased consumption dramatically in last 2 years. Has been living with me for the past two years trying to go to community college while working and giving me money for rent. He has done well in some courses getting As. In others like some advanced math he has taken twice and been unable to pass. He has paid for these courses on holis own. He has major strengths and weaknesses in executive functioning. I could never figure it out completely and had to give up focusing on it after he left high school. I talked with him about his disability and maybe he has to look at other ways in goal of getting job that supports him. His jobs are very entry level and he does work is on time etc. He came home yesterday and stated he changed his major to something that does not require the intense math. He signed up for 2 courses and is going to get financial aid for the following semester if he does well this semester. It sounds good.....but I am tired of this so dont know what to do or how to feel about it. I dont want him living with me but if this works he will be on a better path. I was problem wrong in letting him move in with me. It has not been easy. The plan was that he would work contribute and go to school as he would not be able to do this living by himself. He had a few roomates after being in treatment for his substance abuse for over a year. But it ended badly when his last roommate left without notice and he could no longer stay in the apartment due to lack of funds and difficulty in finding another suitable roommate. He is excited. I am just afraid and tired to hope that this will work. Again I dont want him to live with me too much longer but if this works for him it will increase his independence and self esteem. If not we will be back to the same old stuff and I will problem have to force him to leave. I hope that my ramblings make sense. Please give me some feedback. thank you.