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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 208082"><p>You know, there are some great benefits to being not afraid to speak your mind. I have friends tell me that when they go somewhere and are having problems, say with a waitress or something, they'll say, "Where's Heather when you need her." I used to be really harsh when I was younger, but have gotten much better at getting my point across a bit more diplomatically. And no one can say they don't know where I stand. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>I do tend to be more reserved when it comes to acquaintances, but if they say something that goes against my morals and sense of right and wrong, I do speak up. Like I said, I've just learned to be more diplomatic about it.</p><p></p><p>I call it being direct. It is intimidating to a lot of people. I've been told by several people - men and women - that I intimidate them which never fails to amaze me. Little ol' me intimidating other people. I don't understand how it's intimidating when I'm just being honest and direct. But, women aren't used to it from other women and men only expect it from men. It puts a lot of men off, so I've learned. You can see two men heatedly discussing something and then pat each other on the back and walk away all smiles. But, if a woman does that with a man, she's a b!tch. Apparently, if a women does it with a women it's the same outcome often. </p><p></p><p>You just have to learn when it's appropriate and when it's not, how to say what you want to say in a more diplomatic (and, thus, less threatening) manner and realize that you're not going to please everyone regardless. I've also learned that sometimes my opinion or thoughts really don't matter and people are interested in being validated and I keep my opinions to myself in those cases.</p><p></p><p>Like Popeye, "I yam what I yam". It is not my intention to upset or anger people, but I am a very forthright person. Maybe a bit passionate. I think it's ok to be direct and to speak your mind as long as you're not offensive and abrasive. </p><p></p><p>I'm probably all over the place and making no sense, but I hope this helps somewhat.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 208082"] You know, there are some great benefits to being not afraid to speak your mind. I have friends tell me that when they go somewhere and are having problems, say with a waitress or something, they'll say, "Where's Heather when you need her." I used to be really harsh when I was younger, but have gotten much better at getting my point across a bit more diplomatically. And no one can say they don't know where I stand. :winking: I do tend to be more reserved when it comes to acquaintances, but if they say something that goes against my morals and sense of right and wrong, I do speak up. Like I said, I've just learned to be more diplomatic about it. I call it being direct. It is intimidating to a lot of people. I've been told by several people - men and women - that I intimidate them which never fails to amaze me. Little ol' me intimidating other people. I don't understand how it's intimidating when I'm just being honest and direct. But, women aren't used to it from other women and men only expect it from men. It puts a lot of men off, so I've learned. You can see two men heatedly discussing something and then pat each other on the back and walk away all smiles. But, if a woman does that with a man, she's a b!tch. Apparently, if a women does it with a women it's the same outcome often. You just have to learn when it's appropriate and when it's not, how to say what you want to say in a more diplomatic (and, thus, less threatening) manner and realize that you're not going to please everyone regardless. I've also learned that sometimes my opinion or thoughts really don't matter and people are interested in being validated and I keep my opinions to myself in those cases. Like Popeye, "I yam what I yam". It is not my intention to upset or anger people, but I am a very forthright person. Maybe a bit passionate. I think it's ok to be direct and to speak your mind as long as you're not offensive and abrasive. I'm probably all over the place and making no sense, but I hope this helps somewhat. [/QUOTE]
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