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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 148621" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Hi MB,</p><p>thanks for the reply. I think it is hard to compartmentalize with my dtr because she will lie about anything, it can't be sorted out. She used to lie about things that it would be just as easy to tell the truth about--things that had no consequence, good or bad, if she told the truth. Also, she isn't telling me anything negative or asking advice. Basically, the things she tells me are all good things, about how well she is doing and how she has really learned from her past mistakes. She is telling me how she isn't dating right now because she needs a break from men and is enjoying the company of her women friends. She tells me how nice it is to just have to look after herself and to be able to spend her money the way she wants to. How she loves living on her own! How she told boyfriend that they couldn't be together anymore and how she was nervous that he might come find her at work, that she was glad he didn't know where she lived! </p><p></p><p>It isn't just a lie here and there, her whole life is a lie, and this is consistent with her history. And I think the mental health issues she had when she was younger are continuing but she is able to function better now. She is so convincing and sincere--actually she is very good at faking it and I have been taken in many times. I don't even know if she is faking it--maybe she believes her own delusions. I have often wondered if she is able to convince herself of her fantasies despite all the evidence to the contrary. My difficult child 2's therapist has suggested that difficult child 1 may have a dissociative disorder (which is what difficult child 2 has been diagnosed with) too. I know something is really wrong with her--I just don't know what it is.</p><p></p><p>Thanks,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 148621, member: 3208"] Hi MB, thanks for the reply. I think it is hard to compartmentalize with my dtr because she will lie about anything, it can't be sorted out. She used to lie about things that it would be just as easy to tell the truth about--things that had no consequence, good or bad, if she told the truth. Also, she isn't telling me anything negative or asking advice. Basically, the things she tells me are all good things, about how well she is doing and how she has really learned from her past mistakes. She is telling me how she isn't dating right now because she needs a break from men and is enjoying the company of her women friends. She tells me how nice it is to just have to look after herself and to be able to spend her money the way she wants to. How she loves living on her own! How she told boyfriend that they couldn't be together anymore and how she was nervous that he might come find her at work, that she was glad he didn't know where she lived! It isn't just a lie here and there, her whole life is a lie, and this is consistent with her history. And I think the mental health issues she had when she was younger are continuing but she is able to function better now. She is so convincing and sincere--actually she is very good at faking it and I have been taken in many times. I don't even know if she is faking it--maybe she believes her own delusions. I have often wondered if she is able to convince herself of her fantasies despite all the evidence to the contrary. My difficult child 2's therapist has suggested that difficult child 1 may have a dissociative disorder (which is what difficult child 2 has been diagnosed with) too. I know something is really wrong with her--I just don't know what it is. Thanks, Jane [/QUOTE]
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