Pandora - so what did you do with the box? (oh i see you let someone in MY house open it -gosh thanks)
I am the original social outcast. And that pain doesn't go away with time or selfworth or self assuredness. It's there - always to remind me to be humble.
In second grade my Mom also did the "McD's" and that was HUGE then - Mc'D's wasnt that old. lol (showing my age here ladies) and it backfired. She brought it to the classroom during our lunch and I got mocked and teased even more. So do I think the Mom and me lunch in third grade with a social outcast boy helps? mmmmmm not really. Why? okay -
He loves you - he really does, BUT you're his Mom. While YOU and I think that we are doing him a HUGE favor - maybe incurring some jealousy with little boys in his class or thinking this gets him at LEAST out with someone who WILL play with him - I would venture to say in his 8 year old heart it's not what he wants. He wants them to like him and the way that happens is by him behaving. Which he doesn't seem to be able to Dooooooo so it's quite a catch 22.
I would have a serious talk with the school counselor - at that age he/she is going to be very much more used to dealing with stuff like this and have really good, viable suggestions. Also - do you think he cares about anything? Like Riding bikes or chess, or swimming? The YMCA is a great place for kids to learn how to socially interact with kids their own age. Karate classes are good - heck even learning how to play a musical instrument.
But - for the moment - while I think what you are doing is healing for your hurting heart? I dont' think it's doing anything for him other than giving him an OUT for his natural consequence from his behavior. Maybe once a month - but not once a week. IMVHO.
Check with the counselor - really. And with the Y......
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I can tell you from my heart that I know how badly this hurts you - it hurt MY Mom too. It DID build character - and anyone here can tell you - I am CERTAINLY a character.
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