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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 434519" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon, first off, you are NOT a bad mother, you are a good mother with a very difficult child who probably would have been difficult regardless of the abuse. That just made things worse, but YOU didn't do it. Her father did. You've only tried to pick up the pieces and get her help. Your twins are proof that you are a good mother and that hereditary and what her own father did to her combined to make your daughter very "different." I also think you should read timer lady's posts. She has good perspective of parenting from different addresses. It does not mean you are giving up, but you have two little ones to protect. She is not safe to have around them if she has abused them or tried to abuse them.</p><p></p><p>To be a good parent though, you need to treat your own mental health problems as well. I speak as one who also has experience with deep, deep depression and sometimes irrational or over-the-top anxiety. When I used to get into either mode, I wasn't helpful to anybody.</p><p></p><p>You have done as much or more than any mother could do given the circumstances. The rest has to come from her with your support. I don't know much about RTCs, but I do know that your fiance, your twins, and you deserve time to heal and at the same time I assume your oldest would be getting help or at least custodial care in a safe environment. Check out the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) before you send her. </p><p></p><p>By the way, I am your neighbor in Wisconsin <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I am about five hours from Minneapolis. It's nice to meet you. Now breathe...you didn't hurt your child EVER. You only loved her. </p><p></p><p>These decisions are heartwrenching to all of us, but we are behind you 100% <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 434519, member: 1550"] Hon, first off, you are NOT a bad mother, you are a good mother with a very difficult child who probably would have been difficult regardless of the abuse. That just made things worse, but YOU didn't do it. Her father did. You've only tried to pick up the pieces and get her help. Your twins are proof that you are a good mother and that hereditary and what her own father did to her combined to make your daughter very "different." I also think you should read timer lady's posts. She has good perspective of parenting from different addresses. It does not mean you are giving up, but you have two little ones to protect. She is not safe to have around them if she has abused them or tried to abuse them. To be a good parent though, you need to treat your own mental health problems as well. I speak as one who also has experience with deep, deep depression and sometimes irrational or over-the-top anxiety. When I used to get into either mode, I wasn't helpful to anybody. You have done as much or more than any mother could do given the circumstances. The rest has to come from her with your support. I don't know much about RTCs, but I do know that your fiance, your twins, and you deserve time to heal and at the same time I assume your oldest would be getting help or at least custodial care in a safe environment. Check out the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) before you send her. By the way, I am your neighbor in Wisconsin :) I am about five hours from Minneapolis. It's nice to meet you. Now breathe...you didn't hurt your child EVER. You only loved her. These decisions are heartwrenching to all of us, but we are behind you 100% :) [/QUOTE]
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