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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 200577" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>You can't do a darn thing about what others think. They are going to have their opinons regardless of the truth. The best you can do is remind yourself they aren't seeing the whole story and truly don't understand. That helped me a lot when I was judged. I didn't take it quite as personally.</p><p> </p><p>You have every right to feel relief at the some of the peace in your home. It's been a long time coming. Besides, you know #1 is safe and, as you said, happy. Sad that they enjoy being away from home and those who love them but many of our kids do. Usually, the rules are much easier away -- and there is no guilt if the rules aren't followed. It makes like much easier for them. </p><p> </p><p>So, toss your guilt right out the window. It doesn't belong. As was said, he made the choices to put him there. He will make the choices to come home or stay there or end up elsewhere. It is on his shoulders, not yours.</p><p> </p><p>Good for you for not reacting to #2. Wonder what would happen if you went on total strike and only did for you? He's old enough to take care of himself. Maybe then he would understand that you're not obligated to do for him. You do it out of love for him. I don't know if it would work, but it might not hurt to try.</p><p> </p><p>HUGS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 200577, member: 3626"] You can't do a darn thing about what others think. They are going to have their opinons regardless of the truth. The best you can do is remind yourself they aren't seeing the whole story and truly don't understand. That helped me a lot when I was judged. I didn't take it quite as personally. You have every right to feel relief at the some of the peace in your home. It's been a long time coming. Besides, you know #1 is safe and, as you said, happy. Sad that they enjoy being away from home and those who love them but many of our kids do. Usually, the rules are much easier away -- and there is no guilt if the rules aren't followed. It makes like much easier for them. So, toss your guilt right out the window. It doesn't belong. As was said, he made the choices to put him there. He will make the choices to come home or stay there or end up elsewhere. It is on his shoulders, not yours. Good for you for not reacting to #2. Wonder what would happen if you went on total strike and only did for you? He's old enough to take care of himself. Maybe then he would understand that you're not obligated to do for him. You do it out of love for him. I don't know if it would work, but it might not hurt to try. HUGS [/QUOTE]
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