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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 738356" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thats what I meant, Wish. Nobody can get better in any bad situatuon without admitting it and going for treatment.</p><p></p><p>I have a very mild form of bipolar, mostly all depression, so Im told (I am leery of psychiatry but not the known treatments). I spent my life in a depression until I found the right medications at about age 40. It took that long. And I had no family empathy at all. I was "bad." I dont know why... i did not do risky things, have wild sex, take drugs or drink, or break the law....but I was tortured by some in my family. Dare I say most? And called "crazy."</p><p></p><p>The truth is few in my family were not mentally ill too. They just did not admit it. So they didnt resolve their issues. You need to be willing to admit everything,not just talk about what you feel others did to you in therapy. You need to fess up yourself. Not everyone confesses their own dysfunctional deeds. They go to therapy only for sympathy. Not all. Some.</p><p></p><p>Parents cant fix an illness. I strongly believe all mental illsnes is biological and hereditary and not anyones fault and more and more researchers are coming to this conclusion. It is still a conflict in psychiatry.</p><p></p><p> I also know the person who has to get the help is thr person, not the support system. I did it without one and never gave up on me. That is the hard part. YOU have to help yourself. YOU have to be the one who wo t give up on your life.</p><p></p><p>I would never cut someone off for mental illness unless the person was mean and abusive, as in my family, and refused to admit it or get help. So I guess we are on the same page, Wish.</p><p></p><p>Just wanted to clarify. I have lived it too as well as been villified for it and been wrongly accused as the crazy one in the family so I gave up on THEM, not me. They were sick too. Mom acted like a borderline. Im sure she at least had traits. She had anxiety and depression. Sis anorexia, life long, and depression and attachment disorder and probably a personality disorder. Just guessing except for the anorexia, which goes along with depression. I think she admitted to attachment disorder which is serious. Dad, Uncle had issues. I tried hard to help my sister but in the end she was too unpredictable and mean to me and I did decide I dont want that in my life and ended it.</p><p></p><p>There is this stigma about mental illness that causes so many to refuse to admit it or get the proper help. And the medications do cause weight gain so try to get an anorexic to take it, you know?</p><p></p><p>Society makes it hard to admit mental illness. But society also doesnt excuse it. So we cant either. And all we can do is hope the.loved one gets help beyond using self medication which only makes things worse.</p><p></p><p>Light and love!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 738356, member: 1550"] Thats what I meant, Wish. Nobody can get better in any bad situatuon without admitting it and going for treatment. I have a very mild form of bipolar, mostly all depression, so Im told (I am leery of psychiatry but not the known treatments). I spent my life in a depression until I found the right medications at about age 40. It took that long. And I had no family empathy at all. I was "bad." I dont know why... i did not do risky things, have wild sex, take drugs or drink, or break the law....but I was tortured by some in my family. Dare I say most? And called "crazy." The truth is few in my family were not mentally ill too. They just did not admit it. So they didnt resolve their issues. You need to be willing to admit everything,not just talk about what you feel others did to you in therapy. You need to fess up yourself. Not everyone confesses their own dysfunctional deeds. They go to therapy only for sympathy. Not all. Some. Parents cant fix an illness. I strongly believe all mental illsnes is biological and hereditary and not anyones fault and more and more researchers are coming to this conclusion. It is still a conflict in psychiatry. I also know the person who has to get the help is thr person, not the support system. I did it without one and never gave up on me. That is the hard part. YOU have to help yourself. YOU have to be the one who wo t give up on your life. I would never cut someone off for mental illness unless the person was mean and abusive, as in my family, and refused to admit it or get help. So I guess we are on the same page, Wish. Just wanted to clarify. I have lived it too as well as been villified for it and been wrongly accused as the crazy one in the family so I gave up on THEM, not me. They were sick too. Mom acted like a borderline. Im sure she at least had traits. She had anxiety and depression. Sis anorexia, life long, and depression and attachment disorder and probably a personality disorder. Just guessing except for the anorexia, which goes along with depression. I think she admitted to attachment disorder which is serious. Dad, Uncle had issues. I tried hard to help my sister but in the end she was too unpredictable and mean to me and I did decide I dont want that in my life and ended it. There is this stigma about mental illness that causes so many to refuse to admit it or get the proper help. And the medications do cause weight gain so try to get an anorexic to take it, you know? Society makes it hard to admit mental illness. But society also doesnt excuse it. So we cant either. And all we can do is hope the.loved one gets help beyond using self medication which only makes things worse. Light and love! [/QUOTE]
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