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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 734395" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>I have a similar problem, but my adopted granddaughter is not really abusive, just inconsiderate. She doesn't contact us unless she needs something. She is "staying with friends" or friend of the week. </p><p></p><p>I used to try to text her at least every other day. Now, I am down to once a week. I just keep it opened ended...hope you are doing well... You got some mail... We will be gone this weekend... Etc.</p><p></p><p>I usually just get a "thanks" or "working quite a few shifts" "see you later"</p><p></p><p>I try not to bring up anything... I try not to take the bait that she dangles. She tries to make open ended sentences... Like "I am really mad at..." Or "I can't stand so and so at work". I have learned if I ask what happened... I get a long story...and if I respond with suggestions, she has multiple excuses why it won't work.</p><p></p><p>Also, I go to AlAnon because younger DGD has addiction issues... But it helps me so much with her older sister who is probably bipolar...as a teen she was diagnosed with mood disorder. Her mom also used massive amounts of alcohol. She has normal IQ, no facial features of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)...but has all the other issues....ADHD, ODD, very scattered an unorganized. Not able to follow thru or plan for future. Lives in the day... Not for next week.</p><p></p><p>Keep praying... At night, I say a little prayer and "hand" it off to God. </p><p></p><p>It's tough..</p><p></p><p>Ksm</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 734395, member: 12511"] I have a similar problem, but my adopted granddaughter is not really abusive, just inconsiderate. She doesn't contact us unless she needs something. She is "staying with friends" or friend of the week. I used to try to text her at least every other day. Now, I am down to once a week. I just keep it opened ended...hope you are doing well... You got some mail... We will be gone this weekend... Etc. I usually just get a "thanks" or "working quite a few shifts" "see you later" I try not to bring up anything... I try not to take the bait that she dangles. She tries to make open ended sentences... Like "I am really mad at..." Or "I can't stand so and so at work". I have learned if I ask what happened... I get a long story...and if I respond with suggestions, she has multiple excuses why it won't work. Also, I go to AlAnon because younger DGD has addiction issues... But it helps me so much with her older sister who is probably bipolar...as a teen she was diagnosed with mood disorder. Her mom also used massive amounts of alcohol. She has normal IQ, no facial features of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)...but has all the other issues....ADHD, ODD, very scattered an unorganized. Not able to follow thru or plan for future. Lives in the day... Not for next week. Keep praying... At night, I say a little prayer and "hand" it off to God. It's tough.. Ksm [/QUOTE]
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