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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 730692" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>Amy2355 My heart feels broken for you. Years ago when my daughter was so disrespectful I took her to therapy and during therapy I made my mind up to not have anything to do with her for a long time. My daughter was 28 at the time and I knew I could not tolerate her nonsense any longer. I cut myself out of her life completely even taking my voice off of my answering machine. After about 3 months we started to talk a little and it made a huge impression on her, after that she would tell me she was sorry right away or else I could totally detach from her again. I mean it was total detachment, she would try to call me from other peoples phones and I would not answer.</p><p>My daughter asked her dad if I would ever talk to her again and he said he did not know. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but in reality it was the best because it taught her I was not her push over anymore and God knows I was for a long time.</p><p></p><p>I am at a point now where I have to do it again. My daughter has pushed me to that point. My daughter has done things that hurt me deep down, things that are not acceptable to me. I have to have enough self respect to not allow that kind of abuse from anyone especially her. This time my cut off will not be so painful. The first time I cried everyday 3 times a day. I don't understand this awful behavior but I don't want to tolerate it either.</p><p>I have to fill my days with other things and it is so hard because I love my daughter so much and want togetherness with her but she has grown to be someone I would walk a mile from to avoid.</p><p></p><p>If I continued allowing her abuse I would have a horrible future. I have been praying for strength to satisfy my need to have a relationship with her, it is the strongest need I have and I have to work on trying to take the edge off of it. I know and understand the strength and love that comes from a close relationship and I so desire that with my daughter and I have to realize she does not desire that with me. I feel rejected, hurt to the core, and so sad, yet there is a small part of me that is screaming out saying I want to save my life and not be hurt day after day. I want to enjoy other members of my family and it is hard to do when I am in continued agony over how awful my daughter is to me.</p><p></p><p>This pain is undiscribible, it is an ache in the pit of my soul yet even more painful. I get over whelmed with sorrow because it feels like a death but I am reading the detachment post everyday and it does give me strenth. If you lived close I would hug you tight and let you know you are not walking on this dark journey alone. I am so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 730692, member: 22416"] Amy2355 My heart feels broken for you. Years ago when my daughter was so disrespectful I took her to therapy and during therapy I made my mind up to not have anything to do with her for a long time. My daughter was 28 at the time and I knew I could not tolerate her nonsense any longer. I cut myself out of her life completely even taking my voice off of my answering machine. After about 3 months we started to talk a little and it made a huge impression on her, after that she would tell me she was sorry right away or else I could totally detach from her again. I mean it was total detachment, she would try to call me from other peoples phones and I would not answer. My daughter asked her dad if I would ever talk to her again and he said he did not know. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but in reality it was the best because it taught her I was not her push over anymore and God knows I was for a long time. I am at a point now where I have to do it again. My daughter has pushed me to that point. My daughter has done things that hurt me deep down, things that are not acceptable to me. I have to have enough self respect to not allow that kind of abuse from anyone especially her. This time my cut off will not be so painful. The first time I cried everyday 3 times a day. I don't understand this awful behavior but I don't want to tolerate it either. I have to fill my days with other things and it is so hard because I love my daughter so much and want togetherness with her but she has grown to be someone I would walk a mile from to avoid. If I continued allowing her abuse I would have a horrible future. I have been praying for strength to satisfy my need to have a relationship with her, it is the strongest need I have and I have to work on trying to take the edge off of it. I know and understand the strength and love that comes from a close relationship and I so desire that with my daughter and I have to realize she does not desire that with me. I feel rejected, hurt to the core, and so sad, yet there is a small part of me that is screaming out saying I want to save my life and not be hurt day after day. I want to enjoy other members of my family and it is hard to do when I am in continued agony over how awful my daughter is to me. This pain is undiscribible, it is an ache in the pit of my soul yet even more painful. I get over whelmed with sorrow because it feels like a death but I am reading the detachment post everyday and it does give me strenth. If you lived close I would hug you tight and let you know you are not walking on this dark journey alone. I am so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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