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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 623595" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Just, </p><p></p><p>I know you can't feel it yet, and can't believe it, but yestarday was a good day. Yestarday was a day that maybe just possibly might change things. Yestarday was a day that your daughter needed, has been headed for inexorably one way or another...it could have come in the form of an oxy car crash, an ugly drug deal, another way of getting money...but it didn't. It came through your sister, in a safe form, it came with police and a hospital and a psychiatric ward and a treatment facility.</p><p></p><p>Just....this is all good.</p><p></p><p>It isn't good that you are living this life, that you don't get to just go to graduations and sweet 16s and weddings like it looks like other families do....but you have the card you were dealt, the daughter (and four others! yikes!) you were dealt, and this is a chance, a small chance but a chance, for her to grow up. Your beautiful, brilliant daughter, as you first described her. </p><p></p><p>Look at the response you got from Cedar, where she quoted all those comments you made. THEY ARE ALMOST ALL ADDRESSED BY THIS painful, awful event. Everything has come apart. Now all there is is new beginnings. It is that way sometimes.</p><p></p><p>If you like to read and have patience for radical acceptance ....try Pema Chodron's book When Things Fall Apart. Once you get your daughter settled you will have a little more free time to tend to yourself. Use it. When she is in the hospital is the time you can relax. </p><p></p><p>My SO told me that. His mom was crazy...a zillion hospitalizations for things like taking all her clothes off in front of the 7-11, starting when he was about 13--his dad left and he was the one who cared for her, took her to the hospital, unpacked her suitcases when she packed to go on trips to nowwhere, starting at 15. He told me that the first time my difficult child was admitted to a psychiatric hospital...I was sooo upset, so undone, by visiting him there...but SO said...he is safe now, now is the time you can relax. and he was right (I hope you never find this out but that is also true for jail).</p><p></p><p>Blessings on you in this time of crisis. There is light here around the clouds. Trust me. Trust in that.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 623595, member: 17269"] Just, I know you can't feel it yet, and can't believe it, but yestarday was a good day. Yestarday was a day that maybe just possibly might change things. Yestarday was a day that your daughter needed, has been headed for inexorably one way or another...it could have come in the form of an oxy car crash, an ugly drug deal, another way of getting money...but it didn't. It came through your sister, in a safe form, it came with police and a hospital and a psychiatric ward and a treatment facility. Just....this is all good. It isn't good that you are living this life, that you don't get to just go to graduations and sweet 16s and weddings like it looks like other families do....but you have the card you were dealt, the daughter (and four others! yikes!) you were dealt, and this is a chance, a small chance but a chance, for her to grow up. Your beautiful, brilliant daughter, as you first described her. Look at the response you got from Cedar, where she quoted all those comments you made. THEY ARE ALMOST ALL ADDRESSED BY THIS painful, awful event. Everything has come apart. Now all there is is new beginnings. It is that way sometimes. If you like to read and have patience for radical acceptance ....try Pema Chodron's book When Things Fall Apart. Once you get your daughter settled you will have a little more free time to tend to yourself. Use it. When she is in the hospital is the time you can relax. My SO told me that. His mom was crazy...a zillion hospitalizations for things like taking all her clothes off in front of the 7-11, starting when he was about 13--his dad left and he was the one who cared for her, took her to the hospital, unpacked her suitcases when she packed to go on trips to nowwhere, starting at 15. He told me that the first time my difficult child was admitted to a psychiatric hospital...I was sooo upset, so undone, by visiting him there...but SO said...he is safe now, now is the time you can relax. and he was right (I hope you never find this out but that is also true for jail). Blessings on you in this time of crisis. There is light here around the clouds. Trust me. Trust in that. Echo [/QUOTE]
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