lovemysons
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Just got off the phone with young difficult child's wife.
Apparently she and young difficult child talked til 5am the other morning and were planning on "running away together and starting over".
This plan didn't last long as young difficult child told his wife (yesterday) that he is still with this new woman he has met at state psychiatric hospital and doesn't know when he'll end this (new) relationship..."give me a couple more weeks" he says.
daughter in law just revealed to me that she has been seeing, talking, texting with a newly divorced older man. She told me about him...that he has 18 yr and 16 yr old daughters from his first marriage. That he enjoys children and family life. That his second wife divorced him because a stepson had died of leukemia and she wanted a new start. That he has his own business, a lake house in another state with a boat and would like to take her and the kids (my grandchildren) there this summer. And Honestly...I am okay with all of this...as long as she takes this slow and really pays attention to his actions...not just his words.
Young difficult child's first love are his pain pills and alcohol...NOT his family.
I am ready to see daughter in law and the kids in a stable environment with a loving father figure that puts them FIRST.
Yesterday, daughter in law woke up when my 6 yr old grandson came into to tell her that he had a bad dream. daughter in law told him "so did I." Grandson asked what the dream was about and daughter in law told him..."I dreamt I let daddy come back to live with us". Grandson said, "Don't worry mommy...I know you would never be THAT DUMB in real life."
How sad is that! My grandson has been experiencing life with my young difficult child and does not want his daddy there at home with them anymore. And I told her that I believe her children WILL blame her if she continues to let young difficult child back into their lives...Only to pursue his pain pills and alcohol again and again.
The whole situation is heartbreaking as I could hear her begin to cry as I expressed to her that I knew that young difficult child was "her first real love"...but that she and kid's are not his.
True, a new relationship in the making right now is awfully fast...but I can't control daughter in law anymore than I can control young difficult child. I just want what is best for her and the grandkids...and sadly, my son is NOT what's best.
LMS
Apparently she and young difficult child talked til 5am the other morning and were planning on "running away together and starting over".
This plan didn't last long as young difficult child told his wife (yesterday) that he is still with this new woman he has met at state psychiatric hospital and doesn't know when he'll end this (new) relationship..."give me a couple more weeks" he says.
daughter in law just revealed to me that she has been seeing, talking, texting with a newly divorced older man. She told me about him...that he has 18 yr and 16 yr old daughters from his first marriage. That he enjoys children and family life. That his second wife divorced him because a stepson had died of leukemia and she wanted a new start. That he has his own business, a lake house in another state with a boat and would like to take her and the kids (my grandchildren) there this summer. And Honestly...I am okay with all of this...as long as she takes this slow and really pays attention to his actions...not just his words.
Young difficult child's first love are his pain pills and alcohol...NOT his family.
I am ready to see daughter in law and the kids in a stable environment with a loving father figure that puts them FIRST.
Yesterday, daughter in law woke up when my 6 yr old grandson came into to tell her that he had a bad dream. daughter in law told him "so did I." Grandson asked what the dream was about and daughter in law told him..."I dreamt I let daddy come back to live with us". Grandson said, "Don't worry mommy...I know you would never be THAT DUMB in real life."
How sad is that! My grandson has been experiencing life with my young difficult child and does not want his daddy there at home with them anymore. And I told her that I believe her children WILL blame her if she continues to let young difficult child back into their lives...Only to pursue his pain pills and alcohol again and again.
The whole situation is heartbreaking as I could hear her begin to cry as I expressed to her that I knew that young difficult child was "her first real love"...but that she and kid's are not his.
True, a new relationship in the making right now is awfully fast...but I can't control daughter in law anymore than I can control young difficult child. I just want what is best for her and the grandkids...and sadly, my son is NOT what's best.
LMS