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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 449412" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Actually, this "his space" thing is a normal "guy" thing - just taken to an extreme when you get to Aspie et al. But even regular guys need to be given a "space" and then taught that all "their stuff" belongs <u>there</u>, not all over everyone else's space too! The only "stuff" allowed inside is the books on that subject...</p><p></p><p>And I'll second Janet on the books... second-hand and thrift stores often have rafts of interesting books on arcane subjects. And the older books are usually very well written. Don't overlook more generalized books either - like Popular Mechanics books that cover a range of subjects... which will also have the "specialty interest" in them... these become a starting point for a slightly broader interest (sometimes - can't hurt to try!)</p><p></p><p>Ours isn't on the spectrum, but has some milder tendencies in that direction. But... the "his space" thing and the "stuff all over" thing and the "books books books" thing... yup. Difference is... ours has at least 20 intensive interests, not just one! (Try helping a very-high-adhd kid keep track of stuff that relates to 20 different interests... let alone trying to keep track of the uninteresting stuff like school work...)</p><p></p><p>When we went through a very intense period, I was going insane - literally - until I stepped back, and stopped taking it all "personal". As in, stopped assuming that he was doing all this stuff just to bug me and the rest of the family... and it turns out, he wasn't doing it deliberately - he was just going insane himself, and thrashing out to try to survive. But wrapping my own head around that concept really saved my own sanity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 449412, member: 11791"] Actually, this "his space" thing is a normal "guy" thing - just taken to an extreme when you get to Aspie et al. But even regular guys need to be given a "space" and then taught that all "their stuff" belongs [U]there[/U], not all over everyone else's space too! The only "stuff" allowed inside is the books on that subject... And I'll second Janet on the books... second-hand and thrift stores often have rafts of interesting books on arcane subjects. And the older books are usually very well written. Don't overlook more generalized books either - like Popular Mechanics books that cover a range of subjects... which will also have the "specialty interest" in them... these become a starting point for a slightly broader interest (sometimes - can't hurt to try!) Ours isn't on the spectrum, but has some milder tendencies in that direction. But... the "his space" thing and the "stuff all over" thing and the "books books books" thing... yup. Difference is... ours has at least 20 intensive interests, not just one! (Try helping a very-high-adhd kid keep track of stuff that relates to 20 different interests... let alone trying to keep track of the uninteresting stuff like school work...) When we went through a very intense period, I was going insane - literally - until I stepped back, and stopped taking it all "personal". As in, stopped assuming that he was doing all this stuff just to bug me and the rest of the family... and it turns out, he wasn't doing it deliberately - he was just going insane himself, and thrashing out to try to survive. But wrapping my own head around that concept really saved my own sanity. [/QUOTE]
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