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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 669778" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Resentment -- boy do I know about that. Resentment and I are well acquainted. I used to seethe with it at times. It's hard not to feel that way when looking at seemingly "normal" families celebrating "normal" milestones and events. When you're dealing with yet another crisis and just want to run away and start over, with no kids. And the guilt over feeling resentment, and then resenting myself -- vicious cycle!</p><p></p><p>It took me years to push through that, to get to the point where I finally learned to just accept things as they are. I don't like the way they are, not one bit, but I've learned to accept and live with it. I honestly can't even tell you how I did it, other than working very hard with a wonderful therapist. Part of it was learning to be grateful for whatever I could find to be graeful for on any particular day. When I started to feel resentful, I tried to shift focus to something positive (well, at least she's not living with me any more!) When I did that enough, it became a habit, and then gradually I let the resentment go. It still rears its ugly head now and again (just this week, in fact) -- but it doesn't consume me like it did at one time.</p><p></p><p>For today, maybe just try and think of one positive thing to cling to, to push that resentment to the side. Do something fun with your husband and don't talk about your son - talk about anything BUT your son. Enjoy life, for yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 669778, member: 1157"] Resentment -- boy do I know about that. Resentment and I are well acquainted. I used to seethe with it at times. It's hard not to feel that way when looking at seemingly "normal" families celebrating "normal" milestones and events. When you're dealing with yet another crisis and just want to run away and start over, with no kids. And the guilt over feeling resentment, and then resenting myself -- vicious cycle! It took me years to push through that, to get to the point where I finally learned to just accept things as they are. I don't like the way they are, not one bit, but I've learned to accept and live with it. I honestly can't even tell you how I did it, other than working very hard with a wonderful therapist. Part of it was learning to be grateful for whatever I could find to be graeful for on any particular day. When I started to feel resentful, I tried to shift focus to something positive (well, at least she's not living with me any more!) When I did that enough, it became a habit, and then gradually I let the resentment go. It still rears its ugly head now and again (just this week, in fact) -- but it doesn't consume me like it did at one time. For today, maybe just try and think of one positive thing to cling to, to push that resentment to the side. Do something fun with your husband and don't talk about your son - talk about anything BUT your son. Enjoy life, for yourself. [/QUOTE]
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