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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 397224" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well I can understand the disappointment to some degree, yes, as I've felt it myself. But it's not really fair to expect the kids to think of those types of things on their own, especially difficult child kids and males on top of it. If I tell my kids (any of them) I want nothing and they believe I'm serious? I get nothing. Why? Because that is what I said I wanted.........and they know me well enough to know I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. </p><p></p><p>Katie and M were told to get us nothing and not to worry about the family presents due to their situation. They obeyed and no one had an issue even though everyone had bought for them and their kids. However it was a nice gesture for them to clean the house after everyone left, and in my opinion that was a nice gift. I did tell Katie that having my family all together for xmas was a gift I'll treasure forever, and she is the one who made that happen. </p><p></p><p>Travis is also unemployed and has been for months, he's looking he's just not finding. He sold his college textbooks online for cash to buy xmas for his neices and nephews. He was worried about his adult sibs ect but they told him to foget about it. He was really worried about getting me a gift......and still didn't like it when I told him to forget about it. So I finally had an idea for him and asked him to reload my sims 2 game back onto my computer for me. (this is a huge ordeal to do lol) Didn't cost him anything but several hours of time, but I've been having a blast with it and he's glad he could do something to make me happy. Oh, and he dug out old family tapes of Kayla and Alex as babies and converted them to dvd for the computer.........he did this for katie as my game idea seemed to inspire him. He's since gotten request from easy child and Nichole to do the same for them.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, especially with difficult children and when money is tight or non existent, you have to help them come up with ideas like that which other people would truly appreciate that they may never think of on their own. Sometimes one idea starts their brains working and triggers many more ideas.</p><p></p><p>Odds are they thought little things such as you listed would have disappointed you. So better to do as you said and not get you something. I've just found from so many years of money being tight.........ways to give things that are appreciated even when they don't cost hardly anything at all. Like the thermal socks and hand and foot warmers I gave to sister in law.........I think they cost me all of 5 bucks for all of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 397224, member: 84"] Well I can understand the disappointment to some degree, yes, as I've felt it myself. But it's not really fair to expect the kids to think of those types of things on their own, especially difficult child kids and males on top of it. If I tell my kids (any of them) I want nothing and they believe I'm serious? I get nothing. Why? Because that is what I said I wanted.........and they know me well enough to know I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. Katie and M were told to get us nothing and not to worry about the family presents due to their situation. They obeyed and no one had an issue even though everyone had bought for them and their kids. However it was a nice gesture for them to clean the house after everyone left, and in my opinion that was a nice gift. I did tell Katie that having my family all together for xmas was a gift I'll treasure forever, and she is the one who made that happen. Travis is also unemployed and has been for months, he's looking he's just not finding. He sold his college textbooks online for cash to buy xmas for his neices and nephews. He was worried about his adult sibs ect but they told him to foget about it. He was really worried about getting me a gift......and still didn't like it when I told him to forget about it. So I finally had an idea for him and asked him to reload my sims 2 game back onto my computer for me. (this is a huge ordeal to do lol) Didn't cost him anything but several hours of time, but I've been having a blast with it and he's glad he could do something to make me happy. Oh, and he dug out old family tapes of Kayla and Alex as babies and converted them to dvd for the computer.........he did this for katie as my game idea seemed to inspire him. He's since gotten request from easy child and Nichole to do the same for them. Sometimes, especially with difficult children and when money is tight or non existent, you have to help them come up with ideas like that which other people would truly appreciate that they may never think of on their own. Sometimes one idea starts their brains working and triggers many more ideas. Odds are they thought little things such as you listed would have disappointed you. So better to do as you said and not get you something. I've just found from so many years of money being tight.........ways to give things that are appreciated even when they don't cost hardly anything at all. Like the thermal socks and hand and foot warmers I gave to sister in law.........I think they cost me all of 5 bucks for all of it. [/QUOTE]
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