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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 642229" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>RE -- Yeah, it's quite a journey, isn't it? I know what you mean about reactions filled with darkness, judgment, resentment, disappointment, grief. It's a MONDO ball of wax. I have thought about MLK's quote many times in recent weeks due, mainly, to national and global news events.</p><p></p><p>But then I took it another step, deeper.... Why was I judging? Resentful? Disappointed? Well, none of those can exist unless I was comparing something vs something....or someone vs someone. Hmmmm..... Comparison. The problem here, for me, is comparison. I began taking mental note of how often I was comparing...well, anyone or anything. </p><p></p><p>Comparison is the polar opposite of Radical Acceptance. Aaaaaaand voila! Suddenly I see why comparison of situations or people can spin me into a trap of dark chaos if I let it. Truth is, I really don't need to compare anyone else's life or situation to mine. Not other parents, not other kids, not other anyone. My life is mine, their life is theirs. And that's the beauty of it. I think people are meant to intersect or intertwine with other lives -- not hijack them.</p><p></p><p>This is a newer idea for me..... Comparison vs Radical Acceptance (or, Dark vs Light, Chaos vs Peace). It's a paradigm shift I like. And the more I just observe it (I was shocked how often I found myself comparing others and situations), the more I learn about it and am able to work through it faster.</p><p></p><p>But I sure am still human and it can get the best of me at times. Yesterday was such a time. But today is another day.</p><p></p><p>RE -- Thank YOU for sharing your beautiful perspectives of Radical Acceptance and Gratitude! I learn much from you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 642229, member: 18284"] RE -- Yeah, it's quite a journey, isn't it? I know what you mean about reactions filled with darkness, judgment, resentment, disappointment, grief. It's a MONDO ball of wax. I have thought about MLK's quote many times in recent weeks due, mainly, to national and global news events. But then I took it another step, deeper.... Why was I judging? Resentful? Disappointed? Well, none of those can exist unless I was comparing something vs something....or someone vs someone. Hmmmm..... Comparison. The problem here, for me, is comparison. I began taking mental note of how often I was comparing...well, anyone or anything. Comparison is the polar opposite of Radical Acceptance. Aaaaaaand voila! Suddenly I see why comparison of situations or people can spin me into a trap of dark chaos if I let it. Truth is, I really don't need to compare anyone else's life or situation to mine. Not other parents, not other kids, not other anyone. My life is mine, their life is theirs. And that's the beauty of it. I think people are meant to intersect or intertwine with other lives -- not hijack them. This is a newer idea for me..... Comparison vs Radical Acceptance (or, Dark vs Light, Chaos vs Peace). It's a paradigm shift I like. And the more I just observe it (I was shocked how often I found myself comparing others and situations), the more I learn about it and am able to work through it faster. But I sure am still human and it can get the best of me at times. Yesterday was such a time. But today is another day. RE -- Thank YOU for sharing your beautiful perspectives of Radical Acceptance and Gratitude! I learn much from you! [/QUOTE]
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