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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 642265" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Nice.</p><p></p><p>Love the clarity of this.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Comparison vs Radical Acceptance.</p><p></p><p>This is how we learn not to judge. If I am comparing <em>even though it may not be to something out there, but to my own interpretation of how a thing should look or feel </em>then not only am I not present in the real time moment, but in addition, I am making myself vulnerable to the very feelings which will burgeon into guilt. </p><p></p><p>Very nice.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>"Comparison is the polar opposite of Radical Acceptance." I am going to put that on the fridge. It's like the perfect clue, pointing me to how to monitor my responses in present time. For me, foolish as it sounds, the comparison is with programs like Father Knows Best and Eight is Enough and even, Happy Days. There was always a wise, older woman on the soaps, too.</p><p></p><p>And though I understand intellectually that those people were never real...on some level, that is what I expect happiness to look like. On some level, this is how I believed everyone else was living while my family of origin whirled deeper into toxicity or, after I had my own children, while my children's lives fell apart.</p><p> </p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 642265, member: 17461"] Nice. Love the clarity of this. Comparison vs Radical Acceptance. This is how we learn not to judge. If I am comparing [I]even though it may not be to something out there, but to my own interpretation of how a thing should look or feel [/I]then not only am I not present in the real time moment, but in addition, I am making myself vulnerable to the very feelings which will burgeon into guilt. Very nice. "Comparison is the polar opposite of Radical Acceptance." I am going to put that on the fridge. It's like the perfect clue, pointing me to how to monitor my responses in present time. For me, foolish as it sounds, the comparison is with programs like Father Knows Best and Eight is Enough and even, Happy Days. There was always a wise, older woman on the soaps, too. And though I understand intellectually that those people were never real...on some level, that is what I expect happiness to look like. On some level, this is how I believed everyone else was living while my family of origin whirled deeper into toxicity or, after I had my own children, while my children's lives fell apart. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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