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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 642369" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I keep coming back to this thread.</p><p></p><p>It opens and opens for me, this concept of comparison. That is the gist of so much of every single thing in my life. Not just the kids, though that is the focus for angst. (Picture German opera singer in one of those metal bustiers, here.)</p><p></p><p>Ahem.</p><p></p><p>It's that somehow I can see it now, when I compare what I have to those stupid television shows. <em>That's where the feeling of shortcoming originates.</em> It has to be something to do with knowing my family of origin was just not right but not knowing how and so, subconsciously, choosing all those images of perfection as real. </p><p></p><p>Intellectually, I get that they were staged episodes.</p><p></p><p>Except that somewhere in here, I don't get that, at all.</p><p></p><p>I remember when I read that Carol Brady dated the actor who played the oldest son on the Brady Bunch. I nearly threw up.</p><p></p><p>Really.</p><p></p><p>I still think she's an awful person, interacting in that way with her own son.</p><p></p><p>The same dynamic must be at work when I try to figure out how to put all the pieces together where my kids are concerned.</p><p></p><p>When I think about "no comparison/radical acceptance" I get a feeling of clarity.</p><p></p><p>How extraordinary.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Which opens the whole question of who we think we are these days. Old people fall down and can't get up and need those stair wheelchairs. Plus, they have gas, they have denture odor, they can't think straight and they look just awful. </p><p></p><p>They have like, really serious diseases, and depression and Alzheimer's.</p><p></p><p>They run around having plastic surgery and dyeing their hair, not for fun, not something like purple, but to conceal who they are.</p><p></p><p>What is all this doing to our young boys and girls, as they form opinions of themselves, of life, of their parents and grands, of other races.</p><p></p><p>Radical acceptance <em>of nothing more than what it is.</em></p><p></p><p>That's a piece of this too.</p><p></p><p>That comparison thing cuts both ways.</p><p></p><p>Excellent thread, for me.</p><p></p><p>Very nice.</p><p></p><p>Thank you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 642369, member: 17461"] I keep coming back to this thread. It opens and opens for me, this concept of comparison. That is the gist of so much of every single thing in my life. Not just the kids, though that is the focus for angst. (Picture German opera singer in one of those metal bustiers, here.) Ahem. It's that somehow I can see it now, when I compare what I have to those stupid television shows. [I]That's where the feeling of shortcoming originates.[/I] It has to be something to do with knowing my family of origin was just not right but not knowing how and so, subconsciously, choosing all those images of perfection as real. Intellectually, I get that they were staged episodes. Except that somewhere in here, I don't get that, at all. I remember when I read that Carol Brady dated the actor who played the oldest son on the Brady Bunch. I nearly threw up. Really. I still think she's an awful person, interacting in that way with her own son. The same dynamic must be at work when I try to figure out how to put all the pieces together where my kids are concerned. When I think about "no comparison/radical acceptance" I get a feeling of clarity. How extraordinary. Cedar Which opens the whole question of who we think we are these days. Old people fall down and can't get up and need those stair wheelchairs. Plus, they have gas, they have denture odor, they can't think straight and they look just awful. They have like, really serious diseases, and depression and Alzheimer's. They run around having plastic surgery and dyeing their hair, not for fun, not something like purple, but to conceal who they are. What is all this doing to our young boys and girls, as they form opinions of themselves, of life, of their parents and grands, of other races. Radical acceptance [I]of nothing more than what it is.[/I] That's a piece of this too. That comparison thing cuts both ways. Excellent thread, for me. Very nice. Thank you! [/QUOTE]
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