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<blockquote data-quote="Tired Mom" data-source="post: 650077" data-attributes="member: 18222"><p>Can I just say I hate the stress that difficult child brings to our lives. Monday around 4:20 pm difficult child called with counselor. It came up that difficult child hadn't called parole officer yet for February. Monday was the last day in February that difficult child would be going to counselor in February and I was pretty sure that parole officer would be gone for the day at 4:30. difficult child texted later that he left a message with parole officer. I asked him if he could try to call again the next day to talk to her in person to make sure she received the message. When difficult child left for rehab parole officer said she didn't receive the voice mail messages we left. difficult child has not texted us since I sent him the text asking him to contact parole officer again. I am guessing he did not bother to try to call her again. He doesn't like making any type of phone calls and his parole officer is abrasive so I am guessing calling her is the last thing he wants to do.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that came up in Monday is that he wants to come back home in the Fall and go back school. I was more worried about trying to make sure he called the parole officer that we didn't talk to much about it. In the past we would have happily paid for him to go to school. (If he had tried in high school he could have got free tuition at University I work at.) Now I have hard time seeing anything good of him coming back here and going back to the community college he had attended. When we picking up his clothes from his apartment after his overdose his roommate was telling us how he was going back to this same school part time. I am almost certain they would hook up again.</p><p></p><p>Ok the final thing is to help with difficult child with his job search we set up a gmail account for difficult child. In addition to the text I sent him I sent him an e-mail. I went ahead and looked in the gmail account to see if he read my e-mail which he hadn't. difficult child hasn't used this e-mail account for anything besides e-mailing resumes so I didn't feel to bad about looking in this account. I know shouldn't have looked but I did. I clicked around and realized I could see the history of videos on you tube he is watching. Unfortunately I can see that he has started watching videos about something called saliva which apparently is a legal physadellic (sp?). </p><p>It is so disappointing to see this. It reminds me so much of the time when he lived at home and I came home and saw on home computer that he had watched a video about combining red bull and alcohol and then later that night it was very obvious that was what he had done that day.</p><p></p><p>I am trying to prepare myself mentally that he most likely will screw up his PTI and that there is nothing I can do about it. I am preparing myself that we most likely will have to pay the $15,000 bond that he is out on. I am preparing myself for all of the ugly things that come with substance abuse.</p><p></p><p>I am telling myself I need to work on myself. There are so many things I can improve about me. I need to find a job in a non abusive environment. I need to exercise more. I need to improve my diet. There is nothing that I can do to save him. It hurts so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired Mom, post: 650077, member: 18222"] Can I just say I hate the stress that difficult child brings to our lives. Monday around 4:20 pm difficult child called with counselor. It came up that difficult child hadn't called parole officer yet for February. Monday was the last day in February that difficult child would be going to counselor in February and I was pretty sure that parole officer would be gone for the day at 4:30. difficult child texted later that he left a message with parole officer. I asked him if he could try to call again the next day to talk to her in person to make sure she received the message. When difficult child left for rehab parole officer said she didn't receive the voice mail messages we left. difficult child has not texted us since I sent him the text asking him to contact parole officer again. I am guessing he did not bother to try to call her again. He doesn't like making any type of phone calls and his parole officer is abrasive so I am guessing calling her is the last thing he wants to do. The other thing that came up in Monday is that he wants to come back home in the Fall and go back school. I was more worried about trying to make sure he called the parole officer that we didn't talk to much about it. In the past we would have happily paid for him to go to school. (If he had tried in high school he could have got free tuition at University I work at.) Now I have hard time seeing anything good of him coming back here and going back to the community college he had attended. When we picking up his clothes from his apartment after his overdose his roommate was telling us how he was going back to this same school part time. I am almost certain they would hook up again. Ok the final thing is to help with difficult child with his job search we set up a gmail account for difficult child. In addition to the text I sent him I sent him an e-mail. I went ahead and looked in the gmail account to see if he read my e-mail which he hadn't. difficult child hasn't used this e-mail account for anything besides e-mailing resumes so I didn't feel to bad about looking in this account. I know shouldn't have looked but I did. I clicked around and realized I could see the history of videos on you tube he is watching. Unfortunately I can see that he has started watching videos about something called saliva which apparently is a legal physadellic (sp?). It is so disappointing to see this. It reminds me so much of the time when he lived at home and I came home and saw on home computer that he had watched a video about combining red bull and alcohol and then later that night it was very obvious that was what he had done that day. I am trying to prepare myself mentally that he most likely will screw up his PTI and that there is nothing I can do about it. I am preparing myself that we most likely will have to pay the $15,000 bond that he is out on. I am preparing myself for all of the ugly things that come with substance abuse. I am telling myself I need to work on myself. There are so many things I can improve about me. I need to find a job in a non abusive environment. I need to exercise more. I need to improve my diet. There is nothing that I can do to save him. It hurts so much. [/QUOTE]
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