Wow! I had no idea it was that good. LOL! Thank you all for your support! She lives in her on little world, doesn't respect appropriate boundaries or any requests I make, has said and done inappropriate things around difficult child before, etc, but then will inevitably threaten grandparent's rights and threaten to "call all kinds of people and stir up all kinds of koi" so this is the best I can think of. There hasn't been any "real" communication with her and I in years and I know it wouldn't do any good to try to reason with her.
I don't know what's happening with me lately but I am almost starting to feel like my brain is starting to think clearly again, little by little. (Oh please don't jinx me, almighty board!) I know that's a strange thing to say but the wear and tear of difficult child life, constant court/PO threats that I had to endure in that last jurisdiction for several years, the stress of losing job and home, etc, left me in crisis and survival mode for a long time. I think that was effecting how I was dealing with those constant but less important annoyances in life and thorns in my side.
Believe it or not, I'm even putting together a gift bag of little goodies for my boss's expected baby. Ok, that's really because I'm considering it my "bag of honey" and I happen to LOVE buying baby things, so I guess I can't really claim I've gotten overly nice and friendly where he's concerned. ;}