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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 428283" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Hi and welcome. My daughter has had all the dxs your daughter has currently at some time in the course of her illness. We didn't start having problems until age 12. After much intervention, including a long residential stay, we found out about long term molestation by an extended family member and a rape. She has since been diagnosed with PTSD and emerging borderline traits. We thought we were protective and functional parents. We knew we were good parents. However....the world is out there and if your kids are super sensitive, any stresser can trip mental illness.</p><p> </p><p>I am always cautious of diagnosis that don't take place over time, envirnments, and with the best professionals. I believe we lost valuable time, wasted money on treatments that were harmful instead of helpful, and some of the medications were damaging.</p><p>I would find an excellent neuropsychologist (waiting lists can be long but worth it). I would insist on input from her teachers and any others who know her well in other environments.</p><p>I also recommend NAMI-they have a general starting class that educates you on diagnosis and symtoms, and they also have support groups.</p><p>I recommend that you and your husband get on the same page-these kids work both ends against the middle. Despite my husband and I having pretty good parenting skills, our daughter started to take us down. I feel pretty educated when it comes to kids and mental illnesses but its hard to see the forest for the trees when its your own kid (maybe your husband is here). We have had a family counselor for several years. My husband doesn't always buy into the mental health and medication thing, but working with the counselor has helped us put up our strongest front for our girl and deal with differences in a way that helps her.</p><p>Glad you read the "Explosive Child"- I want to tell you that Ross Greens' work is good but not the be all end all. I do not believe in buying into any one philosophy or method of handling our children. They are all different and we are all different. Every situation is different. I believe in a<strong> huge</strong> bag of tricks (for parenting and teaching) so that I find what fits best for me, my kid and the situation. I like collaborative problem solving for many things, but sometimes behaviorism, Love and Logic, and the word NO are better.</p><p>Please keep sharing and keep us posted. Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 428283, member: 11001"] Hi and welcome. My daughter has had all the dxs your daughter has currently at some time in the course of her illness. We didn't start having problems until age 12. After much intervention, including a long residential stay, we found out about long term molestation by an extended family member and a rape. She has since been diagnosed with PTSD and emerging borderline traits. We thought we were protective and functional parents. We knew we were good parents. However....the world is out there and if your kids are super sensitive, any stresser can trip mental illness. I am always cautious of diagnosis that don't take place over time, envirnments, and with the best professionals. I believe we lost valuable time, wasted money on treatments that were harmful instead of helpful, and some of the medications were damaging. I would find an excellent neuropsychologist (waiting lists can be long but worth it). I would insist on input from her teachers and any others who know her well in other environments. I also recommend NAMI-they have a general starting class that educates you on diagnosis and symtoms, and they also have support groups. I recommend that you and your husband get on the same page-these kids work both ends against the middle. Despite my husband and I having pretty good parenting skills, our daughter started to take us down. I feel pretty educated when it comes to kids and mental illnesses but its hard to see the forest for the trees when its your own kid (maybe your husband is here). We have had a family counselor for several years. My husband doesn't always buy into the mental health and medication thing, but working with the counselor has helped us put up our strongest front for our girl and deal with differences in a way that helps her. Glad you read the "Explosive Child"- I want to tell you that Ross Greens' work is good but not the be all end all. I do not believe in buying into any one philosophy or method of handling our children. They are all different and we are all different. Every situation is different. I believe in a[B] huge[/B] bag of tricks (for parenting and teaching) so that I find what fits best for me, my kid and the situation. I like collaborative problem solving for many things, but sometimes behaviorism, Love and Logic, and the word NO are better. Please keep sharing and keep us posted. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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