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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 91114" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome aboard and rest assured you are definitely not alone.</p><p>Many of us have traveled the same, or similar, roads and know the</p><p>mix up of emotions that are involved.</p><p></p><p>It is significant what you and your husband decide to do NOW. Some</p><p>of us have floated and hoped for divine intervention or good luck</p><p>to turn it around. Some of us have gone to battle in hopes that</p><p>the choices can be derailed before 18.</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion that is the most important issue for your family now. I</p><p>strongly suggest that you and your husband have a lengthly heart to</p><p>heart about your son. Try to be truthful about how you feel and</p><p>what you feel up to doing. Then closely listen to your husband and</p><p>try to have him be truthful about how he feels and what he is</p><p>prepared to actually do.</p><p></p><p>If you are not on the same page completely it is going to be an</p><p>impossible task. Parents who are passive together have the comfort of having a partner. Parents who are ready to don the</p><p>Warrior Parent outfits and fight like the dickens need to map</p><p>out a plan after gathering and exploring alternatives and then</p><p>DO IT!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>Some parents float and via some miracle have a kid who comes out</p><p>of the stage ready to be healthy. Some parents, like us, fight</p><p>with all our might to make sure that every possible resource is</p><p>explored and rules enforced in hopes our kid will be a healthy</p><p>adult. There are losers and winners on both sides of the aisle.</p><p></p><p>We will support you no matter what your choice. Just remember</p><p>that it is like childrearing rules. Don't "SAY" or "DEMAND"</p><p>unless you are 100% prepared to follow through. You have to be</p><p>ready to not waiver...and if your spouse doesn't follow the same</p><p>script, it won't work. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 91114, member: 35"] Welcome aboard and rest assured you are definitely not alone. Many of us have traveled the same, or similar, roads and know the mix up of emotions that are involved. It is significant what you and your husband decide to do NOW. Some of us have floated and hoped for divine intervention or good luck to turn it around. Some of us have gone to battle in hopes that the choices can be derailed before 18. in my humble opinion that is the most important issue for your family now. I strongly suggest that you and your husband have a lengthly heart to heart about your son. Try to be truthful about how you feel and what you feel up to doing. Then closely listen to your husband and try to have him be truthful about how he feels and what he is prepared to actually do. If you are not on the same page completely it is going to be an impossible task. Parents who are passive together have the comfort of having a partner. Parents who are ready to don the Warrior Parent outfits and fight like the dickens need to map out a plan after gathering and exploring alternatives and then DO IT!!!!!! Some parents float and via some miracle have a kid who comes out of the stage ready to be healthy. Some parents, like us, fight with all our might to make sure that every possible resource is explored and rules enforced in hopes our kid will be a healthy adult. There are losers and winners on both sides of the aisle. We will support you no matter what your choice. Just remember that it is like childrearing rules. Don't "SAY" or "DEMAND" unless you are 100% prepared to follow through. You have to be ready to not waiver...and if your spouse doesn't follow the same script, it won't work. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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