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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 91382" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Rose,</p><p></p><p>First of all, welcome! Yes, you've stumbled on a great site. There are many of us who have been where you are now and come out the other side - some better than others, but we've survived. We're here to help in any way we can. You'll find a lot of support - both informational and emotional.</p><p></p><p>Since you've already tried a few things - wilderness and Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - it's clear that you and your husband are doing everything you can to change things. As others said above, we cannot change what our children do and we cannot make them get better. It's hard knowing when to push and when to sit back and let natural consequnces take over.</p><p></p><p>In my son's case, we pushed for treatment, and even signed him in against his will at one point. For us, it was saving our son's life, as we knew he wouldn't survive the drug world he was in the middle of. </p><p></p><p>As DDD stated above, you and your husband being on the same page is so important. You have to agree what your line in the sand is, and what consequences will be followed through on. It's very important not to make a threat you don't intend to follow through on, or it gives our difficult child's a mixed signal. They will push us as far as they can, so if there are no boundaries, they will keep pushing.</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome. Glad you found us.</p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 91382, member: 27"] Rose, First of all, welcome! Yes, you've stumbled on a great site. There are many of us who have been where you are now and come out the other side - some better than others, but we've survived. We're here to help in any way we can. You'll find a lot of support - both informational and emotional. Since you've already tried a few things - wilderness and Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - it's clear that you and your husband are doing everything you can to change things. As others said above, we cannot change what our children do and we cannot make them get better. It's hard knowing when to push and when to sit back and let natural consequnces take over. In my son's case, we pushed for treatment, and even signed him in against his will at one point. For us, it was saving our son's life, as we knew he wouldn't survive the drug world he was in the middle of. As DDD stated above, you and your husband being on the same page is so important. You have to agree what your line in the sand is, and what consequences will be followed through on. It's very important not to make a threat you don't intend to follow through on, or it gives our difficult child's a mixed signal. They will push us as far as they can, so if there are no boundaries, they will keep pushing. Again, welcome. Glad you found us. Hugs, Deb [/QUOTE]
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