tryin2staysane
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I've been reading on this site for a few months and have learned a lot thanks to all of you awesome people! I am finally getting around to posting (can't post at work, only read) regarding my son.
Background: J (12/25/03) was adopted at birth so we have limited medical history. He was a difficult baby, only would sleep laying on our chests for the first month, was colicky, didn't sleep through the night until he was 16 mths. old. He started showing aggression around 8 mths - his dad was gone for a year at the time, so I blamed it on that. It's just been getting steadily worse; it's like he's stuck in the terrible 2's, if that makes sense.
In August he started having rages - mostly at daycare. Throwing chairs, kicking, biting, scratching, just out of control. Then he started it at home - also telling us he was going to kill us, burn us, etc. He started seeing a psychiatrist/sw - psychiatrist immediately said ADHD and put him on dexadrine - that made him worse. Then depakote - which I think has helped. So now he's on depakote and Focalin. We switched him to a more structured preschool/daycare with a smaller teacher/child ratio. He has done much better there, but still has the rages at home. Most of his anger is towards me; I can do no right and he doesn't want anything to do with me unless dad isn't home. The other night he told me he wants to die. I asked him why, he said he just wants to take a gun and shoot himself...
I contacted his b-mom a few months ago and asked her if there was any mental illness in her or b-dad's family. B-dad has been out of the picture since she was pregnant, but she did tell me that she's bipolar and so is her dad. Also her brother is bipolar and schizophrenic...That would have been nice to know so we could look for signs. Oh well...
We have a neuropsychologist evaluation scheduled next month at Johns Hopkins (thanks to all of y'alls recommendations).
I want to find a new psychiatrist/therapist for him as the people we are seeing now are no help at all. But I don't really know what we're dealing with right now as far as diagnosis.
We've read The Explosive Child and try to implement some of what's in there.
If anyone can offer some insight or suggestions - I'll take whatever I can get!
Thanks!
tryin2staysane
Background: J (12/25/03) was adopted at birth so we have limited medical history. He was a difficult baby, only would sleep laying on our chests for the first month, was colicky, didn't sleep through the night until he was 16 mths. old. He started showing aggression around 8 mths - his dad was gone for a year at the time, so I blamed it on that. It's just been getting steadily worse; it's like he's stuck in the terrible 2's, if that makes sense.
In August he started having rages - mostly at daycare. Throwing chairs, kicking, biting, scratching, just out of control. Then he started it at home - also telling us he was going to kill us, burn us, etc. He started seeing a psychiatrist/sw - psychiatrist immediately said ADHD and put him on dexadrine - that made him worse. Then depakote - which I think has helped. So now he's on depakote and Focalin. We switched him to a more structured preschool/daycare with a smaller teacher/child ratio. He has done much better there, but still has the rages at home. Most of his anger is towards me; I can do no right and he doesn't want anything to do with me unless dad isn't home. The other night he told me he wants to die. I asked him why, he said he just wants to take a gun and shoot himself...
I contacted his b-mom a few months ago and asked her if there was any mental illness in her or b-dad's family. B-dad has been out of the picture since she was pregnant, but she did tell me that she's bipolar and so is her dad. Also her brother is bipolar and schizophrenic...That would have been nice to know so we could look for signs. Oh well...
We have a neuropsychologist evaluation scheduled next month at Johns Hopkins (thanks to all of y'alls recommendations).
I want to find a new psychiatrist/therapist for him as the people we are seeing now are no help at all. But I don't really know what we're dealing with right now as far as diagnosis.
We've read The Explosive Child and try to implement some of what's in there.
If anyone can offer some insight or suggestions - I'll take whatever I can get!
Thanks!
tryin2staysane