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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 44710" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">A place to crash for a night is one thing; showing up with your suitcase is another. Once you really throw yourself on the charity of the "friends" you find out how much they've really got your back....</div></div></p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, depending on how it happened that wouldn't be the case for my son. I've read elswhere on CD (I can't remember where) about a daughter who moved out into a commune-like setting (the poster called it "hippie-heaven").</p><p></p><p>In our little town, there are at least two "communal" pothead houses that I know of - and that my little cannibis clown knows of as well. One where the parents turn a blind eye to what's going on, and one where the dad is actively involved in using with his daughter. Both places are not only pothead party retreats, they are also places where vagrant potheads have been known to drift in, camp for a few months, then drift out again.</p><p></p><p>That's why I haven't pushed so hard that I force him out - I know exactly where he'll go (right into the lion's den). There won't be any other place for him to go that will take him.</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, if we make reasonable rules with consequences, and he just can't stand to live in the new Fourth Reich (otherwise known as Mikey's House), then <strong>he</strong> will have to abandon <strong>us</strong>. He will have to pack his stuff and walk out the door while the other four members of the family are still acting like a family. </p><p></p><p>And for him, it will be a permanent decision. He knows this, and has said as much. No matter how imporant herb is in his daily diet, he still wants some kind of life after HS (although he doesn't know what it is yet). And while he may go to these places to indulge, he's still a "stoner bigot", i.e. a hypocrite who looks down on most of the "other" stoners as stupid and incapable of controlling their drug use.</p><p></p><p>DOH! (Where's the Homer icon hitting himself in the head?)</p><p></p><p>So, if he leaves under his own power WITHOUT the benefit of any fake self-pity he genned up from us, then I doubt he'd go there. It would then demote him to being one of the "stupid" stoners he's tried so hard to distance himself from. </p><p></p><p>Ackkk. Not sure where I'm going with this, or if I'm making sense, but I think I'm agreeing with you (depending on how his exit plays out) Sorry.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p><p></p><p>PS: I'll go ahead and concede, before someone else points it out, that maybe he DOES need to figure out he's just as stupid as the stoners he looks down on. I think that "superior stoner" attitude is his way of reconciling the fact that he's an addict, but "at least I'm not as bad as <em>those</em> guys".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 44710, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">A place to crash for a night is one thing; showing up with your suitcase is another. Once you really throw yourself on the charity of the "friends" you find out how much they've really got your back....</div></div> Unfortunately, depending on how it happened that wouldn't be the case for my son. I've read elswhere on CD (I can't remember where) about a daughter who moved out into a commune-like setting (the poster called it "hippie-heaven"). In our little town, there are at least two "communal" pothead houses that I know of - and that my little cannibis clown knows of as well. One where the parents turn a blind eye to what's going on, and one where the dad is actively involved in using with his daughter. Both places are not only pothead party retreats, they are also places where vagrant potheads have been known to drift in, camp for a few months, then drift out again. That's why I haven't pushed so hard that I force him out - I know exactly where he'll go (right into the lion's den). There won't be any other place for him to go that will take him. on the other hand, if we make reasonable rules with consequences, and he just can't stand to live in the new Fourth Reich (otherwise known as Mikey's House), then [b]he[/b] will have to abandon [b]us[/b]. He will have to pack his stuff and walk out the door while the other four members of the family are still acting like a family. And for him, it will be a permanent decision. He knows this, and has said as much. No matter how imporant herb is in his daily diet, he still wants some kind of life after HS (although he doesn't know what it is yet). And while he may go to these places to indulge, he's still a "stoner bigot", i.e. a hypocrite who looks down on most of the "other" stoners as stupid and incapable of controlling their drug use. DOH! (Where's the Homer icon hitting himself in the head?) So, if he leaves under his own power WITHOUT the benefit of any fake self-pity he genned up from us, then I doubt he'd go there. It would then demote him to being one of the "stupid" stoners he's tried so hard to distance himself from. Ackkk. Not sure where I'm going with this, or if I'm making sense, but I think I'm agreeing with you (depending on how his exit plays out) Sorry. Mikey PS: I'll go ahead and concede, before someone else points it out, that maybe he DOES need to figure out he's just as stupid as the stoners he looks down on. I think that "superior stoner" attitude is his way of reconciling the fact that he's an addict, but "at least I'm not as bad as [i]those[/i] guys". [/QUOTE]
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