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Finally threw down the gauntlet....
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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 44838" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Initially, the implied threat got my attention. But ultimately, it was acceptance of the fact that shutting down the houses wouldn't do anything for my son. If anything, it would give him even more reason to act out, and increase his desire to hide what he's doing from us.</p><p></p><p>While I'm working hard on things like "detachment" and "letting go and letting God", I still try to avoid doing things that give my pot-poisoned son any more reason to act out, especially when the net result will be negative for all concerned. </p><p></p><p>To clarify, though, I stay away from those triggers to the extent that I can without selling my soul, putting my family or my son at risk, or giving up any more control to him.</p><p></p><p>But I'm now willing to let him face his own consequences - even if it means he gets arrested with the rest of the lot when one of those houses is raided. It already happened to another house (a boozer hangout before school), and a lot of his friends are now on probation as a result.</p><p></p><p>For now, I guess that's as close as I can get to the first three steps in any given 12-step program. Slowly, I'm relearning that the change has to start with me.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 44838, member: 3579"] Initially, the implied threat got my attention. But ultimately, it was acceptance of the fact that shutting down the houses wouldn't do anything for my son. If anything, it would give him even more reason to act out, and increase his desire to hide what he's doing from us. While I'm working hard on things like "detachment" and "letting go and letting God", I still try to avoid doing things that give my pot-poisoned son any more reason to act out, especially when the net result will be negative for all concerned. To clarify, though, I stay away from those triggers to the extent that I can without selling my soul, putting my family or my son at risk, or giving up any more control to him. But I'm now willing to let him face his own consequences - even if it means he gets arrested with the rest of the lot when one of those houses is raided. It already happened to another house (a boozer hangout before school), and a lot of his friends are now on probation as a result. For now, I guess that's as close as I can get to the first three steps in any given 12-step program. Slowly, I'm relearning that the change has to start with me. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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