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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 227310" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>When husband and I got married, we both had good jobs and had been independent of our parents for quiet some time which meant neither of us was new to life expenses. So, I only thought it fair that he pay for everything and my money was for the fun stuff. After all, he did ask me, right? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> Of course "I do".</p><p></p><p>O.K., seriously: We did keep our funds separate. He could get in embarrassing trouble as a bank examiner if we had any overdrafts, so he says. That was fine with me. It is so easy to mess up an account with two people active on it. One can take out/spend more money and by the time the other is told, the other could do the same. O.k. confusing! But it can happen.</p><p></p><p>I don't remember if/how we split costs before easy child came along. When easy child arrived, I quit my job. When I reentered the workforce at half time, we continued separate accounts. I paid for snow removal (husband is on the road a lot and I can not keep a toddler in the house long enough to shovel a driveway), daycare, kids' programs (Girls Scouts, voice lessons, ect.) and "fun" stuff (movies, bowling, ect.). husband pays major upkeep bills and credit card bills. I do have my own credit card but usually use his for household expenses (groceries, personal needs items, whatever, pretty much everything).</p><p></p><p>My income also paid for easy child's private school and braces and will pay for difficult child's orthodontical needs.</p><p></p><p>Many of my friends think that we are silly to do this but what works for us does work for us.</p><p></p><p>My suggestion is to list fixed expenses and approximate weekly groceries. Split the expenses based on which income will cover it. Maybe take turns grocery shopping - one buys one week, one the next.</p><p></p><p>Deposit as much as you can in savings accounts (one for each of you). We have our own savings accounts also.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 227310, member: 5096"] When husband and I got married, we both had good jobs and had been independent of our parents for quiet some time which meant neither of us was new to life expenses. So, I only thought it fair that he pay for everything and my money was for the fun stuff. After all, he did ask me, right? :happy: Of course "I do". O.K., seriously: We did keep our funds separate. He could get in embarrassing trouble as a bank examiner if we had any overdrafts, so he says. That was fine with me. It is so easy to mess up an account with two people active on it. One can take out/spend more money and by the time the other is told, the other could do the same. O.k. confusing! But it can happen. I don't remember if/how we split costs before easy child came along. When easy child arrived, I quit my job. When I reentered the workforce at half time, we continued separate accounts. I paid for snow removal (husband is on the road a lot and I can not keep a toddler in the house long enough to shovel a driveway), daycare, kids' programs (Girls Scouts, voice lessons, ect.) and "fun" stuff (movies, bowling, ect.). husband pays major upkeep bills and credit card bills. I do have my own credit card but usually use his for household expenses (groceries, personal needs items, whatever, pretty much everything). My income also paid for easy child's private school and braces and will pay for difficult child's orthodontical needs. Many of my friends think that we are silly to do this but what works for us does work for us. My suggestion is to list fixed expenses and approximate weekly groceries. Split the expenses based on which income will cover it. Maybe take turns grocery shopping - one buys one week, one the next. Deposit as much as you can in savings accounts (one for each of you). We have our own savings accounts also. [/QUOTE]
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