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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 759864" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>It took me a long while in-between things going on here to reply to Nomad. Your reply Copa popped up as I clicked on "post reply". I purposely did not mention "adopted" in my reply because I feel real parents of adopted children here somehow feel there's something lacking in their love and parenting having not gone through the birth process. Yeah no, not true. From my thinking adoptive parents have made the most pure, direct decision to make a difference in a young life knowing how much you were taking on and taking on from someone else who could not, or would not do the hard work of actual parenting. Trust me, the gustation and birth were nothing compared to even the first couple of months of sleepless feeding and diaper changing and then it got more challenging from there, lol. Yes, of course, it was also to fill a need in yourself, if not you would not have done it, same with birth parents who choose to parent, period. That's what human nature is all about. And to expect a child to appreciate you once they have grown to adulthood is as natural as can be also in my mind. I'm not saying to tell us we are the best thing since sliced bread (would be nice, ha) but to accept we have their best interests at heart and to know of all people we are most equipped to give them the best thoughtful guidance and cheerleading they can get. That's the same with all of us parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 759864, member: 22840"] It took me a long while in-between things going on here to reply to Nomad. Your reply Copa popped up as I clicked on "post reply". I purposely did not mention "adopted" in my reply because I feel real parents of adopted children here somehow feel there's something lacking in their love and parenting having not gone through the birth process. Yeah no, not true. From my thinking adoptive parents have made the most pure, direct decision to make a difference in a young life knowing how much you were taking on and taking on from someone else who could not, or would not do the hard work of actual parenting. Trust me, the gustation and birth were nothing compared to even the first couple of months of sleepless feeding and diaper changing and then it got more challenging from there, lol. Yes, of course, it was also to fill a need in yourself, if not you would not have done it, same with birth parents who choose to parent, period. That's what human nature is all about. And to expect a child to appreciate you once they have grown to adulthood is as natural as can be also in my mind. I'm not saying to tell us we are the best thing since sliced bread (would be nice, ha) but to accept we have their best interests at heart and to know of all people we are most equipped to give them the best thoughtful guidance and cheerleading they can get. That's the same with all of us parents. [/QUOTE]
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