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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 762815" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am sorry you suffered when hearing that awful story. Prsyers to you. I had gut punch moments like that too and it hurts.</p><p></p><p>In Nar Anon we usually learn to let the addict make his/her own unpleasant phone calls. And we accept that we will never know from our addicted kids what they do. But Ive also learned that what they do is their business to fix and to pay the rightful consequences of their behavior. It has nothing to do with us.</p><p></p><p> I know Kay has kept a lot from us and at this late date, I don't want to know. I didn't cause it. I can't control it and I can't cure her. I know this now. It's up to you how you handle your son when he wants you to soften things up for him, but your son could have called himself. And what he did to that other person is on him. Like what my daughter does is on her. If your son did it because he was high, it is still on him. Like my own daughter.knows, your son knows too that he is dangerous to others when he takes meth. So he made the decision to do it anyway. Hey, so did Kay.</p><p></p><p>I don't care if drugs make her worse. She knows this and still takes drugs. Their behavior belongs to our addicts, not us. I no longer make excuses for Kay's horrible behavior. She was dangerous from her early teenage years and she is now in her 30s and still uses drugs. Kay is maybe a rare person who gets paranoid and dangerous even smoking weed. Or maybe she used other drugs too back in the day and we honestly did not know it. Either way,everyone she hurt,.stole from etc...it all belongs to her. I will never know all she did/does.and I don't want to. And why she is how she is doesn't matter to me. She can get help.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry your son.is off the rails. Kay was too at his age. This is not an easy path we walk, but we can learn to detach from their chaos. </p><p></p><p>Love and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 762815, member: 1550"] I am sorry you suffered when hearing that awful story. Prsyers to you. I had gut punch moments like that too and it hurts. In Nar Anon we usually learn to let the addict make his/her own unpleasant phone calls. And we accept that we will never know from our addicted kids what they do. But Ive also learned that what they do is their business to fix and to pay the rightful consequences of their behavior. It has nothing to do with us. I know Kay has kept a lot from us and at this late date, I don't want to know. I didn't cause it. I can't control it and I can't cure her. I know this now. It's up to you how you handle your son when he wants you to soften things up for him, but your son could have called himself. And what he did to that other person is on him. Like what my daughter does is on her. If your son did it because he was high, it is still on him. Like my own daughter.knows, your son knows too that he is dangerous to others when he takes meth. So he made the decision to do it anyway. Hey, so did Kay. I don't care if drugs make her worse. She knows this and still takes drugs. Their behavior belongs to our addicts, not us. I no longer make excuses for Kay's horrible behavior. She was dangerous from her early teenage years and she is now in her 30s and still uses drugs. Kay is maybe a rare person who gets paranoid and dangerous even smoking weed. Or maybe she used other drugs too back in the day and we honestly did not know it. Either way,everyone she hurt,.stole from etc...it all belongs to her. I will never know all she did/does.and I don't want to. And why she is how she is doesn't matter to me. She can get help. I am sorry your son.is off the rails. Kay was too at his age. This is not an easy path we walk, but we can learn to detach from their chaos. Love and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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