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Finding out this week if young difficult child will be released from prison...
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 549427" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hello...</p><p></p><p>It's been such a long while since I've been on the board. I suppose I try and not dig too deeply into my feelings most days. It's very painful at times to know/imagine what young difficult child faces in prison on a daily basis. I see him everywhere I look on the walls of our home...in photographs. I miss him so much! And of course, see him as the little boy I once spent hours and hours with many Saturday mornings building lego "masterpieces", smile. I see him on the sidelines of the football field...while his brother was the star quarterback...all the while young difficult child just picking at the grass and staring off into space! It hurts to look back. Even caught husband having a crying spell over our son's this past week. 2 son's that have gone to prison now...and a daughter in her 3rd yr of college. ???</p><p></p><p>I am still VERY close to my daughter in law (Young difficult child's wife) and children. daughter in law has begun to receive phone calls again from young difficult child and tells me that at the end of this week we will find out if young difficult child makes his first parole. </p><p>Meanwhile...Young difficult child has apparently put himself into a bind...sigh. </p><p>He got some tatoos awhile back...My understand is that it is on his chest and says, "Stand tall fade all"...with lightening bolts on either side. He says to daughter in law that he got them to protect himself...double sigh...as racial division is everywhere in prison and young difficult child apparently felt compelled to take a side. </p><p>I am so sorry for this...THIS is NOT how young difficult child was raised! </p><p>But, I can't do anything about it. And apparently this "stand" he has taken includes participating in "group activity". Young difficult child has decided now....that he does not want to be a part of that group. But, they are not letting up and apparently insisting that if young difficult child is not "participating" than he is to remove the lightening bolt tatoo's from his chest. Not sure how he is supposed to do that.</p><p>He tells daughter in law that he told them "You cannot tell me what to do with my body". Hmmmmm. </p><p>So daughter in law tells me he was filled with anxiety late last week and cried himself to sleep at night. </p><p>But...It is of his own making.</p><p></p><p>So...we find out this week (according to daughter in law's conversation with TDC) if young difficult child get's released. His lawyer told us in the beginning that only 40% of inmates get released after the first parole hearing. </p><p></p><p>On a brighter note...young difficult child's son, my very sweet grandson, starts his first day of school today! I am excited for him with alittle aprehension too as he has some speech issues that I hope will be addressed on the one hand and not picked on by fellow school mates on the other. </p><p>Grandson also recently told someone that he "does not have a dad anymore" : ( </p><p>daughter in law did tell him that he STILL has a dad and that he loves him and misses him. </p><p></p><p>easy child took me out to dinner last night. </p><p>As I said before she starts her 3rd yr of college in a week. She is a survivor...Not a mushy overly compassionate victim in this world. What I mean by that is that she fully expects daughter in law to get a job soon after she stops nursing young difficult child and her 3rd baby. easy child has worked the past couple of summers with several young mothers who also hold down "real jobs'. She is extremely disturbed that daughter in law is not providing for her children that it has been left to grandparents and great grandparents to do so. </p><p>I have mixed feelings as I was raised by many many different baby sitters and left alone to pretty much raise myself after about 2nd grade. My mother was a single career-oriented person who also got her Bachelors degree while raising me alone. There is alot to be said for the "survivors" of the world...those that know how to step up and take care of themselves/provide for their own children, etc. Also something to be said (in my humble opinion) about multiple caregivers who have no bond and no consistency to the child. </p><p>Now...this is not necessarily the case with daughter in law and young difficult child's children. Soon daughter in law's mother will retire (like within the next 2 months) and will likely be able to care for the grandchildren if daughter in law wants to "go to work". </p><p>easy child said she would lose alot of respect for daughter in law if she does not get a job when her mother retires. </p><p></p><p>Anyway...smile, I have written enough for now. Am trying to read/catchup with you all and will let you know when I know what the first parole decision is regarding young difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Good to be with you all again, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 549427, member: 3305"] Hello... It's been such a long while since I've been on the board. I suppose I try and not dig too deeply into my feelings most days. It's very painful at times to know/imagine what young difficult child faces in prison on a daily basis. I see him everywhere I look on the walls of our home...in photographs. I miss him so much! And of course, see him as the little boy I once spent hours and hours with many Saturday mornings building lego "masterpieces", smile. I see him on the sidelines of the football field...while his brother was the star quarterback...all the while young difficult child just picking at the grass and staring off into space! It hurts to look back. Even caught husband having a crying spell over our son's this past week. 2 son's that have gone to prison now...and a daughter in her 3rd yr of college. ??? I am still VERY close to my daughter in law (Young difficult child's wife) and children. daughter in law has begun to receive phone calls again from young difficult child and tells me that at the end of this week we will find out if young difficult child makes his first parole. Meanwhile...Young difficult child has apparently put himself into a bind...sigh. He got some tatoos awhile back...My understand is that it is on his chest and says, "Stand tall fade all"...with lightening bolts on either side. He says to daughter in law that he got them to protect himself...double sigh...as racial division is everywhere in prison and young difficult child apparently felt compelled to take a side. I am so sorry for this...THIS is NOT how young difficult child was raised! But, I can't do anything about it. And apparently this "stand" he has taken includes participating in "group activity". Young difficult child has decided now....that he does not want to be a part of that group. But, they are not letting up and apparently insisting that if young difficult child is not "participating" than he is to remove the lightening bolt tatoo's from his chest. Not sure how he is supposed to do that. He tells daughter in law that he told them "You cannot tell me what to do with my body". Hmmmmm. So daughter in law tells me he was filled with anxiety late last week and cried himself to sleep at night. But...It is of his own making. So...we find out this week (according to daughter in law's conversation with TDC) if young difficult child get's released. His lawyer told us in the beginning that only 40% of inmates get released after the first parole hearing. On a brighter note...young difficult child's son, my very sweet grandson, starts his first day of school today! I am excited for him with alittle aprehension too as he has some speech issues that I hope will be addressed on the one hand and not picked on by fellow school mates on the other. Grandson also recently told someone that he "does not have a dad anymore" : ( daughter in law did tell him that he STILL has a dad and that he loves him and misses him. easy child took me out to dinner last night. As I said before she starts her 3rd yr of college in a week. She is a survivor...Not a mushy overly compassionate victim in this world. What I mean by that is that she fully expects daughter in law to get a job soon after she stops nursing young difficult child and her 3rd baby. easy child has worked the past couple of summers with several young mothers who also hold down "real jobs'. She is extremely disturbed that daughter in law is not providing for her children that it has been left to grandparents and great grandparents to do so. I have mixed feelings as I was raised by many many different baby sitters and left alone to pretty much raise myself after about 2nd grade. My mother was a single career-oriented person who also got her Bachelors degree while raising me alone. There is alot to be said for the "survivors" of the world...those that know how to step up and take care of themselves/provide for their own children, etc. Also something to be said (in my humble opinion) about multiple caregivers who have no bond and no consistency to the child. Now...this is not necessarily the case with daughter in law and young difficult child's children. Soon daughter in law's mother will retire (like within the next 2 months) and will likely be able to care for the grandchildren if daughter in law wants to "go to work". easy child said she would lose alot of respect for daughter in law if she does not get a job when her mother retires. Anyway...smile, I have written enough for now. Am trying to read/catchup with you all and will let you know when I know what the first parole decision is regarding young difficult child. Good to be with you all again, LMS [/QUOTE]
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