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Finding peace even though she tries to steal it..
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 338966" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I disagree....</p><p></p><p>I think you will always care to some degree; otherwise you wouldn't talk about it at all. It would have no meaning, no emotional up or down in your life whatsoever. It would be like talking about a street sign. Just flat. Uninvolved. Non-concerning.</p><p></p><p> I do believe that as parents we get to a point where we learn to watch our kids live their own lives and not be involved. It's like we say to ourselves "I no longer will say "I allow, or do not allow." Maybe that's what detachment truly is; I don't know I'm in the newbie stages of detaching where I take a stand, then back down a little, then take a bolder stand, then back down less, then all of a sudden I have this epiphany and think WHY AM I DOING THIS AT ALL? </p><p></p><p>One of the most confusing little sentences to me has always been: No one can take advantage of you unless you let them. In some ways I think it's true, in other ways it seems like the person that wrote that never met my x or my difficult child. Then I LEFT my x, and have nothing to do with him and he can't take advantage of me. So is it a true statement after all or not? See what I mean about confusing? </p><p></p><p>I've spent a lot of time this week not just thinking about difficult child but about a lot of people who take advantage of not only me and how they talk to me but how I see others talking to others and I think....wow we really treat each other like dirt. What gives that person the right? It's been a very long week. A very high difficult child week. </p><p></p><p>I'm sending you a container and a 3 lock box for your peace dear. Hope it helps. And a pit bull, and a biker, and a nasty cat....with an attitude to guard the peace box. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 338966, member: 4964"] I disagree.... I think you will always care to some degree; otherwise you wouldn't talk about it at all. It would have no meaning, no emotional up or down in your life whatsoever. It would be like talking about a street sign. Just flat. Uninvolved. Non-concerning. I do believe that as parents we get to a point where we learn to watch our kids live their own lives and not be involved. It's like we say to ourselves "I no longer will say "I allow, or do not allow." Maybe that's what detachment truly is; I don't know I'm in the newbie stages of detaching where I take a stand, then back down a little, then take a bolder stand, then back down less, then all of a sudden I have this epiphany and think WHY AM I DOING THIS AT ALL? One of the most confusing little sentences to me has always been: No one can take advantage of you unless you let them. In some ways I think it's true, in other ways it seems like the person that wrote that never met my x or my difficult child. Then I LEFT my x, and have nothing to do with him and he can't take advantage of me. So is it a true statement after all or not? See what I mean about confusing? I've spent a lot of time this week not just thinking about difficult child but about a lot of people who take advantage of not only me and how they talk to me but how I see others talking to others and I think....wow we really treat each other like dirt. What gives that person the right? It's been a very long week. A very high difficult child week. I'm sending you a container and a 3 lock box for your peace dear. Hope it helps. And a pit bull, and a biker, and a nasty cat....with an attitude to guard the peace box. :winking: [/QUOTE]
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