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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 60736" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sometimes home is where they let their guard down, and so they behaviour can be worse there. They hold it together all day (with effort) and then come home and let fly. because they know you love them, no matter what.</p><p></p><p>The Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) score - from memory, 42 is close to the border. Keep a copy of the result for later reference for you, in case you see something you hadn't noticed before. For example - difficult child 3 makes a sort of throat-clearing noise. It's been getting a lot louder in recent weeks. He said a couple of days ago, he makes the noise because he's trying to clear his throat of phlegm from his sinus infection. It is what he believes, but I don't buy it - the noise is worse when he's anxious, or concentrating on schoolwork.</p><p>But if I'd done the test with the statement from difficult child 3 in my mind, that he's only clearing his throat - he would get a different score.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3's behaviour outside the home is generally impeccable. He talks non-stop to total strangers, but superficially he can seem normal to the casual observer.</p><p>At the GP today, it was a new bloke who I think was a bit surprised at difficult child 3's long-winded descriptions and constant talking. Asked if he had any fever, difficult child 3 went into details about how often he has taken his temperature, as well as a summary of the full range of scores he has had in this process. I was noticing that his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a lot more obvious than usually found, outside home - a sign he's not well and not holding himself together as well as he usually does.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 is well adjusted and accepting of his autism. However, he still does his utmost to "pretend to be normal" as he calls it. When he's not well, he has to try much harder, and since he's always trying his hardest, I can see the facade slip.</p><p></p><p>Get yourself a hold of "The Explosive Child" - read the discussion on Early Childhood - and develop your own working hypothesis for your son. Don't worry too much about the label, just get into his head and work out your own description. Labels are good for getting support funding; understanding is good for getting better communication with him at home.</p><p></p><p>There is a lot going on inside these kids which we often have trouble accepting and understanding. Sometimes we punish what they can't control - very sad. We need to help them learn control, but in a supportive way and not a punitive way. We keep the ultimate goal in mind - we want them to grow up to be happy, independent and productive. Sometimes we despair of ever coming close to that goal, but we should never lose sight of it.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 60736, member: 1991"] Sometimes home is where they let their guard down, and so they behaviour can be worse there. They hold it together all day (with effort) and then come home and let fly. because they know you love them, no matter what. The Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) score - from memory, 42 is close to the border. Keep a copy of the result for later reference for you, in case you see something you hadn't noticed before. For example - difficult child 3 makes a sort of throat-clearing noise. It's been getting a lot louder in recent weeks. He said a couple of days ago, he makes the noise because he's trying to clear his throat of phlegm from his sinus infection. It is what he believes, but I don't buy it - the noise is worse when he's anxious, or concentrating on schoolwork. But if I'd done the test with the statement from difficult child 3 in my mind, that he's only clearing his throat - he would get a different score. difficult child 3's behaviour outside the home is generally impeccable. He talks non-stop to total strangers, but superficially he can seem normal to the casual observer. At the GP today, it was a new bloke who I think was a bit surprised at difficult child 3's long-winded descriptions and constant talking. Asked if he had any fever, difficult child 3 went into details about how often he has taken his temperature, as well as a summary of the full range of scores he has had in this process. I was noticing that his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a lot more obvious than usually found, outside home - a sign he's not well and not holding himself together as well as he usually does. difficult child 3 is well adjusted and accepting of his autism. However, he still does his utmost to "pretend to be normal" as he calls it. When he's not well, he has to try much harder, and since he's always trying his hardest, I can see the facade slip. Get yourself a hold of "The Explosive Child" - read the discussion on Early Childhood - and develop your own working hypothesis for your son. Don't worry too much about the label, just get into his head and work out your own description. Labels are good for getting support funding; understanding is good for getting better communication with him at home. There is a lot going on inside these kids which we often have trouble accepting and understanding. Sometimes we punish what they can't control - very sad. We need to help them learn control, but in a supportive way and not a punitive way. We keep the ultimate goal in mind - we want them to grow up to be happy, independent and productive. Sometimes we despair of ever coming close to that goal, but we should never lose sight of it. Marg [/QUOTE]
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