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First 'casualties' of the Nebraska safe-haven law
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<blockquote data-quote="Abbey" data-source="post: 194892" data-attributes="member: 179"><p>I have mixed emotions on this. I've been there. I would have dropped off J's <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> in a heartbeat many times to anyone who would take him...but no one would. My thought was he couldn't get any worse than where he is now...let someone else give him a chance. But, no...no place for him.</p><p></p><p>Hence all the legal crud to turn him over to the state in order to get services.</p><p></p><p>I envision some parent/guardian at their rope's end rolling...no, racing up to a hospital and saying, "I'm sorry, but I can't help him anymore. Here's my number, do the best you can." At least you know he/she MIGHT get the care and evaluations that haven't happened for years. Now it's on THEIR plate. You try to raise this child. He'll be sweet as pie for a honeymoon period, then put your armor on.</p><p></p><p>I think that once we turned over custody of J to the state it was the validation of what we went through raising him. After numerous failed placements because he was such a jerk, running away, stealing, etc., they realized what we had faced daily trying to parent him. Every one of them exited him home because they couldn't handle him.</p><p></p><p>In the end, would I have loved to roll into a hospital and drop him off rather than go through the legal bull cr@ap to get it done? Yep. It doesn't mean I don't care for him...it's...let's get the ball rolling NOW.</p><p></p><p>Abbey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abbey, post: 194892, member: 179"] I have mixed emotions on this. I've been there. I would have dropped off J's :censored2: in a heartbeat many times to anyone who would take him...but no one would. My thought was he couldn't get any worse than where he is now...let someone else give him a chance. But, no...no place for him. Hence all the legal crud to turn him over to the state in order to get services. I envision some parent/guardian at their rope's end rolling...no, racing up to a hospital and saying, "I'm sorry, but I can't help him anymore. Here's my number, do the best you can." At least you know he/she MIGHT get the care and evaluations that haven't happened for years. Now it's on THEIR plate. You try to raise this child. He'll be sweet as pie for a honeymoon period, then put your armor on. I think that once we turned over custody of J to the state it was the validation of what we went through raising him. After numerous failed placements because he was such a jerk, running away, stealing, etc., they realized what we had faced daily trying to parent him. Every one of them exited him home because they couldn't handle him. In the end, would I have loved to roll into a hospital and drop him off rather than go through the legal bull cr@ap to get it done? Yep. It doesn't mean I don't care for him...it's...let's get the ball rolling NOW. Abbey [/QUOTE]
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