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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 456262" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I take great exception to the statement that if LDs haven't been caught by now then she likely doesn't have them. At least in the US that is pure hogwash. MANY children are passed to the next level with no ability to do the work - students just are not kept back here esp if they have problems because the teachers don't want to deal with them and because the current mode of thinking says that holding them back will give bigger social problems and make things worse.</p><p></p><p>There aer a LOT of Learning Disability (LD)'s that are NEVER caught. I know MANY people who had no clue they had Learning Disability (LD)'s until high school, college or in some cases grad school. My MOTHER is one of them. Heck, I have dyscalculia and dysgraphia and only learned of this after my son was diagnosis'd at age 9 or 10. I kept all my college notes until I realized that I cannot read ANY of them. In college if somoene wanted notes from me I would go and type them or use printing and copy them. If I didn't do it the same day that I had the class there was no hope because I could not read them - my own notes. Thankfully my memory keeps way more than i want it too so that a few key words would bring the ideas back to me. Otherwise I would not have gotten through college - the dysgraphia is that bad, esp after the arthritis and fibromyalgia weigh in (and tehy were active long before college).</p><p></p><p>It sounds very much like Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) may be one of the issues you are dealing with. Even if it isn't, do all you can to avoid needing the truth from your difficult child. If there is a puddle on the floor, regardless if you know difficult child made it or not, try asking for them to help you clean it up. "I didn't do it - it wasn't me" will be said. THe response is that you didn't say they did, you just need them to help clean it up. There is a lady with some awesome youtube videos about this that were very helpful for me. </p><p></p><p>One resource to get if you don't have it is "Parenting with Love and Logic" by Fay and Cline. I found it very very helpful as it used logical consequences and worked on strengthening the parent-child bond. You can learn about the various books that they have on their website - <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> . Check out the teacher stuff too - some of it was helpful for me even though I wasn't homeschooling Wiz when I found it.</p><p></p><p>Do you have a Parent Report? It is a document that you create to keep all the info/papers/etc... about difficult child in one place. Years ago some moms here wrote up the outline and it is super helpful wtih insurance appeals, docs, teachers, etc.... You can give the people you are working with copies of whatever sections they need and you have it all at hand at each appointment. The link in my sig will take you to the thread that explains the Parent Report and has the outline. It was the best tool I had in my arsenal when working to get help for my kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 456262, member: 1233"] I take great exception to the statement that if LDs haven't been caught by now then she likely doesn't have them. At least in the US that is pure hogwash. MANY children are passed to the next level with no ability to do the work - students just are not kept back here esp if they have problems because the teachers don't want to deal with them and because the current mode of thinking says that holding them back will give bigger social problems and make things worse. There aer a LOT of Learning Disability (LD)'s that are NEVER caught. I know MANY people who had no clue they had Learning Disability (LD)'s until high school, college or in some cases grad school. My MOTHER is one of them. Heck, I have dyscalculia and dysgraphia and only learned of this after my son was diagnosis'd at age 9 or 10. I kept all my college notes until I realized that I cannot read ANY of them. In college if somoene wanted notes from me I would go and type them or use printing and copy them. If I didn't do it the same day that I had the class there was no hope because I could not read them - my own notes. Thankfully my memory keeps way more than i want it too so that a few key words would bring the ideas back to me. Otherwise I would not have gotten through college - the dysgraphia is that bad, esp after the arthritis and fibromyalgia weigh in (and tehy were active long before college). It sounds very much like Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) may be one of the issues you are dealing with. Even if it isn't, do all you can to avoid needing the truth from your difficult child. If there is a puddle on the floor, regardless if you know difficult child made it or not, try asking for them to help you clean it up. "I didn't do it - it wasn't me" will be said. THe response is that you didn't say they did, you just need them to help clean it up. There is a lady with some awesome youtube videos about this that were very helpful for me. One resource to get if you don't have it is "Parenting with Love and Logic" by Fay and Cline. I found it very very helpful as it used logical consequences and worked on strengthening the parent-child bond. You can learn about the various books that they have on their website - [url]www.loveandlogic.com[/url] . Check out the teacher stuff too - some of it was helpful for me even though I wasn't homeschooling Wiz when I found it. Do you have a Parent Report? It is a document that you create to keep all the info/papers/etc... about difficult child in one place. Years ago some moms here wrote up the outline and it is super helpful wtih insurance appeals, docs, teachers, etc.... You can give the people you are working with copies of whatever sections they need and you have it all at hand at each appointment. The link in my sig will take you to the thread that explains the Parent Report and has the outline. It was the best tool I had in my arsenal when working to get help for my kids. [/QUOTE]
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