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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 579192" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>I just remembered something else that was talked about . . . the name of the disorder. One of the people in the class asked how Borderline Personality Disorder was named and the leader said it was because the disorder was considered on the border between psychosis and neurosis. She said she hated the name because it implied something was wrong with the person's personality and who wants to hear that. </p><p></p><p>The leader said that other countries do not call it Borderline (BPD). It is known as Emotional Dysregulation Disorder in most places. She said her niece had a wonderful personality when she was not raging or over the top. When I thought about it, I can see what she means. My difficult child is fun to be around and can always make me laugh. Her impulsivity which can be harmful also leads her to be spontaneous and in the moment which can be a good thing. I tend to be very organized and plan everything and I could use some of her spontaneity.</p><p></p><p>The bottom line was that we (as loved one of someone with Borderline (BPD)) need to get to the point of "radical acceptance" or in other words to stop fighting reality and learn to achieve balance which includes "healthy selfishness." The course is not designed to fix our family members but to develop a loving, effective relationship.</p><p></p><p>One question that she asked that I thought was particularly helpful was, "Do you want to be 'right' or 'effective'?". I think husband needs to hear that one. He and difficult child butt heads constantly because they both have to be right.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 579192, member: 1967"] I just remembered something else that was talked about . . . the name of the disorder. One of the people in the class asked how Borderline Personality Disorder was named and the leader said it was because the disorder was considered on the border between psychosis and neurosis. She said she hated the name because it implied something was wrong with the person's personality and who wants to hear that. The leader said that other countries do not call it Borderline (BPD). It is known as Emotional Dysregulation Disorder in most places. She said her niece had a wonderful personality when she was not raging or over the top. When I thought about it, I can see what she means. My difficult child is fun to be around and can always make me laugh. Her impulsivity which can be harmful also leads her to be spontaneous and in the moment which can be a good thing. I tend to be very organized and plan everything and I could use some of her spontaneity. The bottom line was that we (as loved one of someone with Borderline (BPD)) need to get to the point of "radical acceptance" or in other words to stop fighting reality and learn to achieve balance which includes "healthy selfishness." The course is not designed to fix our family members but to develop a loving, effective relationship. One question that she asked that I thought was particularly helpful was, "Do you want to be 'right' or 'effective'?". I think husband needs to hear that one. He and difficult child butt heads constantly because they both have to be right. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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