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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 247989" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know this has been a difficult and long term problem. While it is true that some kids just have separation anxiety, it really seems strange to me that the school would EVER threaten to keep him there until 9pm or he calms down. And it seems off kilter that he thinks school wants to keep him away from you.</p><p></p><p>What are they saying to him, what have they BEEN saying to him, and what are the other kids doing/saying to him?</p><p></p><p>With my own son, the separation anxiety was much less. Wiz, my oldest, went through school refusal in 8th grade. The school, and several psychologists told us that we had to "force" him to stay at school all day no matter what.</p><p></p><p>My instincts SCREAMED that this was wrong. I finally put a stop to that (one therapist wanted us to have a garbage can put by his seat in every class so if he had to vomit he could do it right there! NO!) We worked it out with the Sp Ed teacher that Wiz could leave ANY class at ANY time to go to the resource room AND that he could call me at any time. We had it put in the IEP.</p><p></p><p>I do think an IEP is overdue if you are going to keep him in school. Push for accomodations like this.</p><p></p><p>IF you live in an area with a large homeschool group, you may find homeschooling to be a very viable option. You can do things with the homeschool group to deal with the social issues while staying home when he really needs it. We did this for third and fourth grades with Wiz. We made far more progress those years than we did in the years before or right after. </p><p></p><p>I am homeschooling my daughter for the third year now. She has great social skills, but she has medical problems the school will not work with us on. </p><p></p><p>I recommend doing a search for homeschool groups in your area (use "homeschool group X City, AL" in a google search). Get the information before you decide that it is just a bad idea.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you do or don't do, remember that YOU and husband are the experts in your child. The "experts" don't know your child that well. They only spend minutes per month with you, as compared to hours per week. I can also tell you that the times I made the most damaging mistakes with my kids were when I ignored what my instincts were telling me. </p><p></p><p>I do recommend getting a neuropsychologist exam as soon as possible so you can be as sure as possible what you are dealing with. others will explain these exams better than I can.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to our little corner, glad to meet you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 247989, member: 1233"] I know this has been a difficult and long term problem. While it is true that some kids just have separation anxiety, it really seems strange to me that the school would EVER threaten to keep him there until 9pm or he calms down. And it seems off kilter that he thinks school wants to keep him away from you. What are they saying to him, what have they BEEN saying to him, and what are the other kids doing/saying to him? With my own son, the separation anxiety was much less. Wiz, my oldest, went through school refusal in 8th grade. The school, and several psychologists told us that we had to "force" him to stay at school all day no matter what. My instincts SCREAMED that this was wrong. I finally put a stop to that (one therapist wanted us to have a garbage can put by his seat in every class so if he had to vomit he could do it right there! NO!) We worked it out with the Sp Ed teacher that Wiz could leave ANY class at ANY time to go to the resource room AND that he could call me at any time. We had it put in the IEP. I do think an IEP is overdue if you are going to keep him in school. Push for accomodations like this. IF you live in an area with a large homeschool group, you may find homeschooling to be a very viable option. You can do things with the homeschool group to deal with the social issues while staying home when he really needs it. We did this for third and fourth grades with Wiz. We made far more progress those years than we did in the years before or right after. I am homeschooling my daughter for the third year now. She has great social skills, but she has medical problems the school will not work with us on. I recommend doing a search for homeschool groups in your area (use "homeschool group X City, AL" in a google search). Get the information before you decide that it is just a bad idea. Whatever you do or don't do, remember that YOU and husband are the experts in your child. The "experts" don't know your child that well. They only spend minutes per month with you, as compared to hours per week. I can also tell you that the times I made the most damaging mistakes with my kids were when I ignored what my instincts were telling me. I do recommend getting a neuropsychologist exam as soon as possible so you can be as sure as possible what you are dealing with. others will explain these exams better than I can. Welcome to our little corner, glad to meet you! [/QUOTE]
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