on-the-verge
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Hello all...came across this group today just as my life is starting to fall apart...actually, it's been falling apart for the last 14 years but has finally hit that critical spot where you just know that decisions made will affect your life forever. by the way, what does difficult child mean? There needs to be a reference site that explains these things for newbies...or perhaps there is one and I haven't located it yet
Now for a very brief history: (I'll add my signature soon)
I am mom (52 on Tuesday),fibromyalgia
married for 29 years to husband (52) Chrohn's
who has been handling most of our child's exploits because I seem to be the trigger for her explosions,
daughter 28 married with 3 babies (5,3,5 months)
ds 25 married, no kids, add
ds 23 married, no kids, adhd
daughter 16, adopted from Haiti, probable o.d.d., driving us over the edge, refuses testing, came to us at age 2 1/2 although assumed to be older
daughter 14, adopted from Haiti, not biological sister of 16 yr old, diagnosed last year as "mildly retarded" (their term, not mine!), multiple learning challenges, was a failure to thrive infant, a surviving twin who came to us at 9 months, weighing 9 pounds
Gosh...what a family! We have a strong faith and marriage, I am a early childhood educator with my own montessori preschool/kindergarten and a published author. husband is a high school math and physics teacher. Our 16 year old is in some of his classes....yes, I nominate him for sainthood!
So my question to you is twofold....which group should I be part of? The teen one appears to be for substance abuse, which I am fairly sure that is not an issue right now. I am looking for support for myself with dealing with 16 year old with whom we had our most major blow-up this week resultling in husband seeing inschool counsellor,principal and resource head. All stated that O.D.D. and Attachment Disorder were strongly suspected. We knew about A.D. for years although never had official diagnosis as daughter refuses to see anyone...we tried once when she was 10, she sat there for the entire hour and said nothing and then the therapist yelled at us for bringing her there against her will. We never returned.
My second question is how do you deal with a teen who refuses to speak to any professional or get tested? Secretly, I keep thinking that sooner or later she'll be involved with the court system (Canada) and they will order an evaluation...but I can't wait for that!
I am so relieved to find this group...this past week has been a nightmare and I hope I can learn from your wisdom and experiences.
Thanks to everyone in advance
Now for a very brief history: (I'll add my signature soon)
I am mom (52 on Tuesday),fibromyalgia
married for 29 years to husband (52) Chrohn's
who has been handling most of our child's exploits because I seem to be the trigger for her explosions,
daughter 28 married with 3 babies (5,3,5 months)
ds 25 married, no kids, add
ds 23 married, no kids, adhd
daughter 16, adopted from Haiti, probable o.d.d., driving us over the edge, refuses testing, came to us at age 2 1/2 although assumed to be older
daughter 14, adopted from Haiti, not biological sister of 16 yr old, diagnosed last year as "mildly retarded" (their term, not mine!), multiple learning challenges, was a failure to thrive infant, a surviving twin who came to us at 9 months, weighing 9 pounds
Gosh...what a family! We have a strong faith and marriage, I am a early childhood educator with my own montessori preschool/kindergarten and a published author. husband is a high school math and physics teacher. Our 16 year old is in some of his classes....yes, I nominate him for sainthood!
So my question to you is twofold....which group should I be part of? The teen one appears to be for substance abuse, which I am fairly sure that is not an issue right now. I am looking for support for myself with dealing with 16 year old with whom we had our most major blow-up this week resultling in husband seeing inschool counsellor,principal and resource head. All stated that O.D.D. and Attachment Disorder were strongly suspected. We knew about A.D. for years although never had official diagnosis as daughter refuses to see anyone...we tried once when she was 10, she sat there for the entire hour and said nothing and then the therapist yelled at us for bringing her there against her will. We never returned.
My second question is how do you deal with a teen who refuses to speak to any professional or get tested? Secretly, I keep thinking that sooner or later she'll be involved with the court system (Canada) and they will order an evaluation...but I can't wait for that!
I am so relieved to find this group...this past week has been a nightmare and I hope I can learn from your wisdom and experiences.
Thanks to everyone in advance