Well we had our first visit with difficult child at the boys ranch on Saturday. All went well, He was so excited to show us his horse (daisy) and all of the other horses. He said it's not too bad there compared to where he could have gone. Believe me this place is gorgeous. The staff are all very nice (the ones I met), we had a picnic style lunch, and talked alot!!! The worst thing about the place is the drive to get there. It took us thru our state into another then back up into Pa again. About 2 1/2 hours. After 5 hours of driving both ways I was pooped. We were there for about 2 and a 1/2 hours, like I said it was a good visit except when it was time to leave He got upset when I said I din't know if I could make this drive every other weekend. I told him I didn't think my van would take it and we really have no other transportation to get there. He didn't seem to care JUST COME!!! I then saw the malnipulative difficult child come out. The crying, the I'm all alone, I won't see you for a month if you only come once a month, etc. Well when he was home he did't want to see me period. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do. As for mothers day still no word from difficult child's grandma and I didn't call her either. She did email the ranch about seeing him they of course contacted me first. I told them in not too much detail that she was the enabler to difficult child and I'm not sure about her visiting him yet. I figure if she wants to go she will contact me and ask me. Maybe then she'll realize I am the parent. Well have a good day all.