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<blockquote data-quote="amy1129" data-source="post: 427114" data-attributes="member: 11795"><p>oh i dont think you're criticizing us, at this point i take all I can get...well within reason. my family and others think its our fault that we spoil him and he just needs a swift kick in the a#@ and he will be "fixed". </p><p> </p><p>I want to make the neuro apt, but wanted to wait until the 2nd visit with social worker, I assume she has people she uses regularly, i am so oblivious to this stuff, I wouldnt know where to begin. </p><p> </p><p>I cant seem to remember if there was any consequenes to dr greenes approach not working anymore. I think what happened was I continued to do "as he asked" and reminded him that this is what he asked us to do once it got bad again I think we went back to the tantrums. The problem I am seeing is his resistence isnt always in the same fashion. For example with teeth brushing, he maybe has 7 different reactions with us and we never know which one we are going to see. This is the same with most of tantrums, it could be just a simple normally spoken "NO", to a full out scream grunt thing with slamming doors. And sometime, just sometimes, he says OK mummma and goes and does it without anything. He is either really really bad or he is really really good, like sickening good, overkill with the i love you's, its one extreme to the other. I would have to say that maybe 20% of the week is a normal boy, 10 is that kill us with kindness kid, and the other 70% is the difficult boy. and the bad boy isnt there all day, maybe 10 outbursts on a weekend day, thats on a good day. </p><p></p><p>I try not to acknowledge his behavior but I dont ignore it either, my husband on the other hand is really really hitting his breaking point with him. I am with him there but we handle it differently. Its just getting so hard and I fight back the tears everytime he is screaming "I HATE YOU" to my face...sometimes I cry right in front of him and it doesnt faze him at all and I think that is the worst part of it all. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>UGH so sorry this turning into a huge vent!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="amy1129, post: 427114, member: 11795"] oh i dont think you're criticizing us, at this point i take all I can get...well within reason. my family and others think its our fault that we spoil him and he just needs a swift kick in the a#@ and he will be "fixed". I want to make the neuro apt, but wanted to wait until the 2nd visit with social worker, I assume she has people she uses regularly, i am so oblivious to this stuff, I wouldnt know where to begin. I cant seem to remember if there was any consequenes to dr greenes approach not working anymore. I think what happened was I continued to do "as he asked" and reminded him that this is what he asked us to do once it got bad again I think we went back to the tantrums. The problem I am seeing is his resistence isnt always in the same fashion. For example with teeth brushing, he maybe has 7 different reactions with us and we never know which one we are going to see. This is the same with most of tantrums, it could be just a simple normally spoken "NO", to a full out scream grunt thing with slamming doors. And sometime, just sometimes, he says OK mummma and goes and does it without anything. He is either really really bad or he is really really good, like sickening good, overkill with the i love you's, its one extreme to the other. I would have to say that maybe 20% of the week is a normal boy, 10 is that kill us with kindness kid, and the other 70% is the difficult boy. and the bad boy isnt there all day, maybe 10 outbursts on a weekend day, thats on a good day. I try not to acknowledge his behavior but I dont ignore it either, my husband on the other hand is really really hitting his breaking point with him. I am with him there but we handle it differently. Its just getting so hard and I fight back the tears everytime he is screaming "I HATE YOU" to my face...sometimes I cry right in front of him and it doesnt faze him at all and I think that is the worst part of it all. UGH so sorry this turning into a huge vent!! [/QUOTE]
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