Woofens
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Haven't posted much about difficult child J... been reading here lots though. You guys have really helped me deal with putting him in the psychiatric hospital.
He was allowed to call me Wednesday evening, and it was terrible. He begged and begged me to come get him, and bring him home, then he asked me why I hadn't come to see him. When I tried to explain to him that they had rules about when I'm allowed to go in, he cried and told me I didn't go because I didn't want to see him
We can go visit Tues, Thurs, Sat and Sun. My mom and I went last night, and the visit itself was good. He sat on my lap, played a little bit, we put a puzzle together and played with some toys. He colored me a picture to bring home. Right after we got there, he started asking about coming home. I tried to redirect the conversation away from it, and not give him a definite answer, as I didn't want him crying the entire time I was there. He asked periodically through the visit, but never really got upset. He also told me (I already knew) that we had a meeting today (family therapy) and asked if I was coming and if my SO was coming. I told him we would be there. When it was time to leave... OMG... the stuff hit the fan. He was on my lap, and O couldn't get up because of my wrist. My mom started to reach for him, and I could see in his face, he was about to erupt so I told her to go tell the nurse quietly we needed help. I did manage to get up, but they had to pry him off of me. I had asked him 3 times for a hug and kiss, and of course, when I was walking away, with the nurse holding him, he started screaming that he wanted to hug me. So I left the psychiatric hospital with the sounds of him screaming behind me... I managed to not break down this time, I expected it to go badly when I left
My mom (who has issues of her own) I have never been able to count on, was actually very helpful, seems to support my decision 100% (which shocks me, since she told me that difficult child D's behavior problems were my fault, and I ended up letting him go live with her 2 years ago).
We have our first family therapy meeting today at 10:30. SO M is going with me. I called bio-dad's SO and asked her to have him call, they need to be there, but no return call as of yet. I left messages on his cell and their phone phone last night around 9:30 PM... they were probably at the bar I'm not going to be surprised if he decided to file for custody of difficult child. He won't win, he doesn't have a leg to stand on with both of them being alcoholic, and both of them have DUI's, and bio-dad got yanked out of work once for a mandatory rehab as he was drinking on the job... not to mention his work schedule.. Besides, I am not an unfit mother, so I'm not worried about it.
Sigh. I'll post later today to let you know how the meeting went.
One minute at a time
Hugs,
Jan
He was allowed to call me Wednesday evening, and it was terrible. He begged and begged me to come get him, and bring him home, then he asked me why I hadn't come to see him. When I tried to explain to him that they had rules about when I'm allowed to go in, he cried and told me I didn't go because I didn't want to see him
We can go visit Tues, Thurs, Sat and Sun. My mom and I went last night, and the visit itself was good. He sat on my lap, played a little bit, we put a puzzle together and played with some toys. He colored me a picture to bring home. Right after we got there, he started asking about coming home. I tried to redirect the conversation away from it, and not give him a definite answer, as I didn't want him crying the entire time I was there. He asked periodically through the visit, but never really got upset. He also told me (I already knew) that we had a meeting today (family therapy) and asked if I was coming and if my SO was coming. I told him we would be there. When it was time to leave... OMG... the stuff hit the fan. He was on my lap, and O couldn't get up because of my wrist. My mom started to reach for him, and I could see in his face, he was about to erupt so I told her to go tell the nurse quietly we needed help. I did manage to get up, but they had to pry him off of me. I had asked him 3 times for a hug and kiss, and of course, when I was walking away, with the nurse holding him, he started screaming that he wanted to hug me. So I left the psychiatric hospital with the sounds of him screaming behind me... I managed to not break down this time, I expected it to go badly when I left
My mom (who has issues of her own) I have never been able to count on, was actually very helpful, seems to support my decision 100% (which shocks me, since she told me that difficult child D's behavior problems were my fault, and I ended up letting him go live with her 2 years ago).
We have our first family therapy meeting today at 10:30. SO M is going with me. I called bio-dad's SO and asked her to have him call, they need to be there, but no return call as of yet. I left messages on his cell and their phone phone last night around 9:30 PM... they were probably at the bar I'm not going to be surprised if he decided to file for custody of difficult child. He won't win, he doesn't have a leg to stand on with both of them being alcoholic, and both of them have DUI's, and bio-dad got yanked out of work once for a mandatory rehab as he was drinking on the job... not to mention his work schedule.. Besides, I am not an unfit mother, so I'm not worried about it.
Sigh. I'll post later today to let you know how the meeting went.
One minute at a time
Hugs,
Jan