I would be really very interested to know if other parents of ADHD, or other, young children see the same phenomenon. J is five. In some ways more immature than the average five year old - still sucks his thumb a lot, has to have a security blanket when tired or upset, has only just started sleeping in his own room and being dry at night, and of course has regular two-year-old type tantrums - but in other ways, he really is like this little man. Not kidding, that's absolutely what he remind me of. Totally self-assured, very practical, with this kind of street-smart knowledge - totally happy to go off by himself to do some piece of business and always full of ideas and suggestions about how things should be done, how things should be done better, etc. He wants to dictate everything, control everything, and is very sophisticated in how he goes about this, always with this great certainty and assurance. It is very odd in one so small! Do you also see this in your difficult child?