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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 685418" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Sooootired, as I was reading your post, I was thinking of my two. Drama is such a part of their lives. It seems so for their friends, too. The idea of living a "normal" life, having jobs, paying rent seems to disgust them. They get bored easily and want "excitement" and partying. This leads to a lot of poor decision making and pretty chaotic living.</p><p>Stepping way back has helped me. I miss them, but not the stress and turmoil that swirls endlessly around them.</p><p>They are like whirling dervishes but I am the one who gets dizzy from it.</p><p>I like peace and quiet.</p><p>I guess that makes me old and boring. Too, bad.</p><p></p><p>We are entitled to peace and quiet.</p><p></p><p>I was thinking of Tornados boyfriend Volcano. His grandparents were the sweetest people. They just came to the great grandkids birthday parties, brought presents, loved on them and went back home.</p><p>They were clueless to what was beneath it all.</p><p>They didn't want to know details, or be involved with all of the craziness.</p><p>There was an amount of respect and care for them, because they were elderly.</p><p></p><p>That is where I got my cookie baking grandma idea from. I don't want to be rescue grandma. It is too hard. I know I cannot raise my grands, and I cannot have them all living here.</p><p>I am not even going to be rescue mom.</p><p>My two need to figure their own lives out.</p><p>The more I stepped in, the more they resented it, the more they took advantage.</p><p>It was crazy.</p><p>We are their parents ST, but we are done parenting.</p><p>We do not have to know every little detail of their lives.</p><p>It is too traumatizing.</p><p>We can't change it anyways.</p><p></p><p>Try to focus on the only person you can change- YOU.</p><p>Find something that gives you joy.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 685418, member: 19522"] Sooootired, as I was reading your post, I was thinking of my two. Drama is such a part of their lives. It seems so for their friends, too. The idea of living a "normal" life, having jobs, paying rent seems to disgust them. They get bored easily and want "excitement" and partying. This leads to a lot of poor decision making and pretty chaotic living. Stepping way back has helped me. I miss them, but not the stress and turmoil that swirls endlessly around them. They are like whirling dervishes but I am the one who gets dizzy from it. I like peace and quiet. I guess that makes me old and boring. Too, bad. We are entitled to peace and quiet. I was thinking of Tornados boyfriend Volcano. His grandparents were the sweetest people. They just came to the great grandkids birthday parties, brought presents, loved on them and went back home. They were clueless to what was beneath it all. They didn't want to know details, or be involved with all of the craziness. There was an amount of respect and care for them, because they were elderly. That is where I got my cookie baking grandma idea from. I don't want to be rescue grandma. It is too hard. I know I cannot raise my grands, and I cannot have them all living here. I am not even going to be rescue mom. My two need to figure their own lives out. The more I stepped in, the more they resented it, the more they took advantage. It was crazy. We are their parents ST, but we are done parenting. We do not have to know every little detail of their lives. It is too traumatizing. We can't change it anyways. Try to focus on the only person you can change- YOU. Find something that gives you joy. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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