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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 365051" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Hi All,</p><p>I'm feeling somewhat better. I will tell her what I found out though---for my own sake. I want to let her know I know something is wrong with her story--at this point I can't just go along and pretend. But, I am starting to go back to my neutral point where I don't let her life get too entangled in mine and I will get there. I really do mean it though that I will not rescue her with any cash. I got a really good lesson--she had called me Monday night with a kooky story of being stuck in the middle of Wisconsin and needing cash to get to Seattle. She was crying, so upset with herself for making a bad decision, etc. I found out the next night that she had made all that up--she freely told me so. She supposedly was afraid I'd be mad at her if she told me the truth, which was that she had joined the Navy.</p><p></p><p>So, what I learned was something I knew before but now had real proof of: she can turn on the tears, be so remorseful, etc. at will. It is all an act. She is an extremely good actress. I don't think she can pull this on me again (at least not for a couple of years) because I really saw it this time. Before, I would suspect that was the case but there was always the little doubt--maybe she wasn't acting, maybe she really was this upset.</p><p></p><p>I also have to face the fact that she probably doesn't truly have the capability to care about me. She knows it is wrong to only call when she wants something (she even lamented the fact that she can't call just to talk, only when she needs help). But, looking back, if I am honest with myself, she really does almost always have an agenda when she calls. Sometimes it is just a "prep" call--pretending to call just to talk--but then I get another call the next day and she asks for something.</p><p></p><p>I've been wondering why she is being so conscientious about calling me each day since she has been on her way back to Seattle. I guess that was part of what got me suspicious. What does she want? Why is she being so "good'?</p><p></p><p>I sure am glad you guys are here. I'll update you when I do talk to her again. I do think I am smarter now--she caught me off guard but my guard is now up and I will try to keep it up. I think it will be a lifelong thing. </p><p></p><p>--Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 365051, member: 3208"] Hi All, I'm feeling somewhat better. I will tell her what I found out though---for my own sake. I want to let her know I know something is wrong with her story--at this point I can't just go along and pretend. But, I am starting to go back to my neutral point where I don't let her life get too entangled in mine and I will get there. I really do mean it though that I will not rescue her with any cash. I got a really good lesson--she had called me Monday night with a kooky story of being stuck in the middle of Wisconsin and needing cash to get to Seattle. She was crying, so upset with herself for making a bad decision, etc. I found out the next night that she had made all that up--she freely told me so. She supposedly was afraid I'd be mad at her if she told me the truth, which was that she had joined the Navy. So, what I learned was something I knew before but now had real proof of: she can turn on the tears, be so remorseful, etc. at will. It is all an act. She is an extremely good actress. I don't think she can pull this on me again (at least not for a couple of years) because I really saw it this time. Before, I would suspect that was the case but there was always the little doubt--maybe she wasn't acting, maybe she really was this upset. I also have to face the fact that she probably doesn't truly have the capability to care about me. She knows it is wrong to only call when she wants something (she even lamented the fact that she can't call just to talk, only when she needs help). But, looking back, if I am honest with myself, she really does almost always have an agenda when she calls. Sometimes it is just a "prep" call--pretending to call just to talk--but then I get another call the next day and she asks for something. I've been wondering why she is being so conscientious about calling me each day since she has been on her way back to Seattle. I guess that was part of what got me suspicious. What does she want? Why is she being so "good'? I sure am glad you guys are here. I'll update you when I do talk to her again. I do think I am smarter now--she caught me off guard but my guard is now up and I will try to keep it up. I think it will be a lifelong thing. --Jane [/QUOTE]
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