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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 417848" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p>I think it bothers you because you feel guilt that the abuse happen on your watch, and you are afraid that it will have a long term effect. And, that is understandable. But, she is still to young to know that her choice is anything but a very wise decision. My 17 yr old son does not have a girl friend yet, and my 15 yr old (,difficult child, who does have a girl friend) has made the choice of no sex until mirage. I count myself blessed in this area. Every individual makes their own choices for their own reasons. She is making good choices.</p><p></p><p>But your real question is how to you get to a place where you can let go and stop letting it bother you. Ideas include:</p><p>- Read about others who were abused and learn what signs to look for. If you don't find any she could be through it, and her behavior not related to the events.</p><p>- Consider taking to a therapist who works with abused kids and see if she/he can provide you with any incite to whether your concern is valid or not.</p><p>- Talk to her and tell her how you are feeling and your concerns for her. (But don't encourage her to change).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 417848, member: 6557"] I think it bothers you because you feel guilt that the abuse happen on your watch, and you are afraid that it will have a long term effect. And, that is understandable. But, she is still to young to know that her choice is anything but a very wise decision. My 17 yr old son does not have a girl friend yet, and my 15 yr old (,difficult child, who does have a girl friend) has made the choice of no sex until mirage. I count myself blessed in this area. Every individual makes their own choices for their own reasons. She is making good choices. But your real question is how to you get to a place where you can let go and stop letting it bother you. Ideas include: - Read about others who were abused and learn what signs to look for. If you don't find any she could be through it, and her behavior not related to the events. - Consider taking to a therapist who works with abused kids and see if she/he can provide you with any incite to whether your concern is valid or not. - Talk to her and tell her how you are feeling and your concerns for her. (But don't encourage her to change). [/QUOTE]
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