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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 305820" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Nancy</p><p> </p><p>Sounds like biomom has some difficult child issues of her own.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>You'd think difficult child would be her top priority and that her living situation wouldn't enter into her decision. It wouldn't mine even for a second. But then I've also lived around teens for so long that I really <strong>get</strong> they couldn't care less about such things as that anyway. They don't even notice most of the time.</p><p> </p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I know that has got to hurt big time. And I'm sorry for that hurt. My aunt adopted my cousin who came from an abusive home at age 3. The teen years with my cousin were hades for my aunt and uncle. Then their difficult child hunted down her biomom. Aunt and uncle refused to because it had been such an abusive situation they feared for her safety. </p><p> </p><p>Cousin got worse after finding biomom. Finding biomom brought back memories of a younger sister cousin had cared for before cps stepped in and removed them. Then cousin was furious aunt and uncle hadn't adopted the sister, when aunt and uncle already had 4 bio kids when they adopted cousin and just couldn't take on 2 very troubled difficult children.</p><p> </p><p>I think cousin was in her mid 20's before it came back to bite her in the fanny. She had her own child by then, bio Mom (a bona fide mega difficult child) had raked her over the coals and taken her to the cleaners and turned her life upside down. </p><p> </p><p>Cousin came to realize that true parents are the people who raise you, love you no matter what, are there to comfort you, guide you, encourage you, and even dicipline you..........and that there are such things as primary egg and sperm donors. sigh</p><p> </p><p>They've long ago patched up a very hurtful broken relationship. Biomom has long since been forgotten.</p><p> </p><p>Some kids need a good wollup upside the head to figure out what they already knew in their hearts.</p><p> </p><p>If biomom is gonna be all about biomom, then it's probably a very good thing she isn't filling out the paperwork and becoming involved with difficult child. Last thing you need is another difficult child to deal with. Even if difficult child isn't mature enough to understand that at this point.</p><p> </p><p>I understand where difficult child is coming from.........she's still dealing with the My Parents Gave Me Up Issues which can be awfully hard to come to terms with.</p><p> </p><p>You're a great Mom Nancy. She will come to realize that in time and truely appreciate it.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 305820, member: 84"] Nancy Sounds like biomom has some difficult child issues of her own.:frowny: You'd think difficult child would be her top priority and that her living situation wouldn't enter into her decision. It wouldn't mine even for a second. But then I've also lived around teens for so long that I really [B]get[/B] they couldn't care less about such things as that anyway. They don't even notice most of the time. I know that has got to hurt big time. And I'm sorry for that hurt. My aunt adopted my cousin who came from an abusive home at age 3. The teen years with my cousin were hades for my aunt and uncle. Then their difficult child hunted down her biomom. Aunt and uncle refused to because it had been such an abusive situation they feared for her safety. Cousin got worse after finding biomom. Finding biomom brought back memories of a younger sister cousin had cared for before cps stepped in and removed them. Then cousin was furious aunt and uncle hadn't adopted the sister, when aunt and uncle already had 4 bio kids when they adopted cousin and just couldn't take on 2 very troubled difficult children. I think cousin was in her mid 20's before it came back to bite her in the fanny. She had her own child by then, bio Mom (a bona fide mega difficult child) had raked her over the coals and taken her to the cleaners and turned her life upside down. Cousin came to realize that true parents are the people who raise you, love you no matter what, are there to comfort you, guide you, encourage you, and even dicipline you..........and that there are such things as primary egg and sperm donors. sigh They've long ago patched up a very hurtful broken relationship. Biomom has long since been forgotten. Some kids need a good wollup upside the head to figure out what they already knew in their hearts. If biomom is gonna be all about biomom, then it's probably a very good thing she isn't filling out the paperwork and becoming involved with difficult child. Last thing you need is another difficult child to deal with. Even if difficult child isn't mature enough to understand that at this point. I understand where difficult child is coming from.........she's still dealing with the My Parents Gave Me Up Issues which can be awfully hard to come to terms with. You're a great Mom Nancy. She will come to realize that in time and truely appreciate it. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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