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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 650767" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Good job. "Never let them see you sweat." While you may feel riled up over this, never let them know that you feel anything but calmly confident.</p><p></p><p>Thank you was the perfect response.</p><p></p><p>I am between Tai Chi and work, so I don't have time to respond at length right now. Basically, try to see this as an opportunity for growth ~ which it is. It is also an opportunity for you to heal some of the unresolved conflict you have not been aware of until this happened.</p><p></p><p>Final thing: Angelina Jolie made the same choice you did MWM, and for the same reason: peace of mind. You made a great choice for yourself. You have been very happy with the outcome and with the surgery, itself.</p><p></p><p>Our families of origin can put us into that old, wrong position. That is where they want us. That is where your sister is hoping this put you.</p><p></p><p>Never let them see you sweat.</p><p></p><p>This does not have to be an opening for her to weasel her way back into your self image.</p><p></p><p>This does not have to be anything, at all.</p><p></p><p>Hold yourself closely and with compassion, recognizing how deeply and how often you have been hurt, how rotten it has been, all of your life, to have had your capacity to make rational judgments questioned, and celebrate your freedom from those things.</p><p></p><p>This is an opportunity for growth, and you are going to come through it stronger and more certain of who you are.</p><p></p><p>That was not what your sister intended.</p><p></p><p>Never let them see you sweat.</p><p></p><p>Here on the site? We will be sweating right along with you ~ in private.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 650767, member: 17461"] Good job. "Never let them see you sweat." While you may feel riled up over this, never let them know that you feel anything but calmly confident. Thank you was the perfect response. I am between Tai Chi and work, so I don't have time to respond at length right now. Basically, try to see this as an opportunity for growth ~ which it is. It is also an opportunity for you to heal some of the unresolved conflict you have not been aware of until this happened. Final thing: Angelina Jolie made the same choice you did MWM, and for the same reason: peace of mind. You made a great choice for yourself. You have been very happy with the outcome and with the surgery, itself. Our families of origin can put us into that old, wrong position. That is where they want us. That is where your sister is hoping this put you. Never let them see you sweat. This does not have to be an opening for her to weasel her way back into your self image. This does not have to be anything, at all. Hold yourself closely and with compassion, recognizing how deeply and how often you have been hurt, how rotten it has been, all of your life, to have had your capacity to make rational judgments questioned, and celebrate your freedom from those things. This is an opportunity for growth, and you are going to come through it stronger and more certain of who you are. That was not what your sister intended. Never let them see you sweat. Here on the site? We will be sweating right along with you ~ in private. :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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