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"For every 'negative', find 2 positives."
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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 172579" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>Our therapist suggested we say things like, "You're SO smart. You always know how to make your brother cry when you want. But...I wonder, do you know how to make him smile?"</p><p></p><p>You may be able to use his activity level as a compliment, like, "You're SO strong, and SO fast. You really know how to get the dog excited when you want to. But, I wonder...do you know how to calm him when he's scared?" </p><p></p><p>Another thing we compliment on is Doing the Right Thing after screwing up. (My difficult child can be really impulsive.) So, we might say, "I'm really proud of you for apologizing after you said that," or even, "I'm really proud that you stopped yourself after that and didn't say anything else inappropriate." </p><p></p><p>The trick is not to make it sound demeaning or false. Verrrrry tricky indeed!</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 172579, member: 3413"] Our therapist suggested we say things like, "You're SO smart. You always know how to make your brother cry when you want. But...I wonder, do you know how to make him smile?" You may be able to use his activity level as a compliment, like, "You're SO strong, and SO fast. You really know how to get the dog excited when you want to. But, I wonder...do you know how to calm him when he's scared?" Another thing we compliment on is Doing the Right Thing after screwing up. (My difficult child can be really impulsive.) So, we might say, "I'm really proud of you for apologizing after you said that," or even, "I'm really proud that you stopped yourself after that and didn't say anything else inappropriate." The trick is not to make it sound demeaning or false. Verrrrry tricky indeed! Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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