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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 98637" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Remeber, NONE of this is the fault of you, husband or really the child. The child was made differently. His brain and body jsut work differently. </p><p></p><p>Using regular parenting, our kids just don't function. The behaviors get out of control. It is like putting regular gas into a chainsaw. It does not work correctly. You have to mix oil with the gas. </p><p></p><p>We have to mix other parenting techniques and medications and other stuff WITH our instincts to get the right "fuel" to make our kids able to function.</p><p></p><p>Get the evaluations, make sure you AGREE with the assessment and treatment plan. If you have doubts, or if your instincts say NO NO NO!!! Then don't. A parent's instincts are usually very much on target.</p><p></p><p>I know my son was given the ADHD label, but it really was Aspergers Syndrome. Adhd medications helped some, but we got lucky there. (ADHD like behavior is one of the SYMPTOMS of Aspergers. Some disorders are made much worse by ADHD medications.)</p><p></p><p>Midwest Mom has some good suggestions.</p><p></p><p>I also find <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">http://www.loveandlogic.com</a> very helpful. There is a LOT of free info available on the website. There are things you can buy, but you don't have to in order to understand it. We have the books and some tapes. I even went to a seminar that was incredible. One of the reasons it works so well for us is that my husband thought it made sense. Even exerpts from The Explosive Child didn't make sense to him. He thought it was too much like spoiling him instead of disciplining him.</p><p></p><p>Love and logic made sense to my husband, it was the FIRST parenting book he read all of. He could wrap his brain around it, AND he could find ways to use it. </p><p></p><p>This meant we could work TOGETHER to parent our son. And our other 2 kids. I think the TOGETHER part of it worked as well as the techniques simply because we were not undercutting each other's progress.</p><p></p><p>Hope some of this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 98637, member: 1233"] Remeber, NONE of this is the fault of you, husband or really the child. The child was made differently. His brain and body jsut work differently. Using regular parenting, our kids just don't function. The behaviors get out of control. It is like putting regular gas into a chainsaw. It does not work correctly. You have to mix oil with the gas. We have to mix other parenting techniques and medications and other stuff WITH our instincts to get the right "fuel" to make our kids able to function. Get the evaluations, make sure you AGREE with the assessment and treatment plan. If you have doubts, or if your instincts say NO NO NO!!! Then don't. A parent's instincts are usually very much on target. I know my son was given the ADHD label, but it really was Aspergers Syndrome. Adhd medications helped some, but we got lucky there. (ADHD like behavior is one of the SYMPTOMS of Aspergers. Some disorders are made much worse by ADHD medications.) Midwest Mom has some good suggestions. I also find [url="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]http://www.loveandlogic.com[/url] very helpful. There is a LOT of free info available on the website. There are things you can buy, but you don't have to in order to understand it. We have the books and some tapes. I even went to a seminar that was incredible. One of the reasons it works so well for us is that my husband thought it made sense. Even exerpts from The Explosive Child didn't make sense to him. He thought it was too much like spoiling him instead of disciplining him. Love and logic made sense to my husband, it was the FIRST parenting book he read all of. He could wrap his brain around it, AND he could find ways to use it. This meant we could work TOGETHER to parent our son. And our other 2 kids. I think the TOGETHER part of it worked as well as the techniques simply because we were not undercutting each other's progress. Hope some of this helps. [/QUOTE]
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